Women & Threesomes: The Double Standards

Here’s a quickread…ok…not really LOL but it’s interesting.

For 10 years I have been publicly humiliated by a former sex partner of mine. It took almost a decade of his tormenting for me to finally gather enough courage to speak about it on YouTube. In March 2016, I went on to my channel and pleaded with women. Candidly, I rehashed a story that took place in ATLANTA, GA around 2011 after a few failed relationships. Where I had been cheated on and physically abused. I was upfront about my sexual history and how I participated in a threesome to satisfy the sexual fantasies of a married man. Making such a destitute decision, once we started to have sex, he wasn’t married yet. I didn’t take his engagement seriously and apparently neither did he. However, I respected his honesty about his relationship status and for him not stealing my choice. He made himself my option. The excrutiating pain from my prior miscarriages and called off engagements from 2 other men weighed heavy on my heart. I just needed relief of any kind. Chris Law came in to save me from my heartache. Or so I thought.

It wasn’t until months after he was married that our affair ended. I initiated the affair. It was my idea and it was only supposed to be temporary. It had served it’s purpose. I was somewhat healed. According to him, his wife was cheating on him before he met me and eventually after things were over between us the 2 were divorced. Finally, almost a decade later I reached out to him on Facebook to ask him if he wanted a percentage of the profit I made off of a book once it was released. Inside the book I took others through the timeline of the sexual relationship between Chris and I and the things I learned from him directly. He had introduced me to the swinger’s lifestyle and polyamorous relationships.

I didn’t even get a chance to ask him. Chris’ response to my Facebook message that simply said “hi” was disrespectful and uncalled for. He had never directly treated me bad or like a hoe EVER. The last time I saw him was a year or so after he divorced her and remarried another woman. He came to my apartment and apologized to me for a trivial fall out and asked for friendship. We were cordial. I had no big issue with him. He had no big issue with me.

He replied “You were a hoe and I treated you as such.”

So if I’m a hoe who was single and had sex with a married man then what does that make you? Because last time I checked we “hoed” together. This prompted me to use my YouTube channel to warn women to avoid men who disrespect women by sexually abusing them and calling them out of their name. I encouraged women to make better choices. I also promoted my book. For years this man spread vicious rumors about me around the city of Atlanta. Dozens of men contacted me informing me that he was calling me a hoe. I refused to believe he’d disrespect me. Foolishly, I put entirely too much stock in a prehistoric friendship. Besides we had an agreement to respect each other’s lives outside of each other. We had fun and it was never something neither of us should have made public. It was our secret and for US. Not for the world.

After I took to my YouTube Channel, infuriated, he began a smear campaign. Remarried on his 2nd or 3rd wife (I’ve lost count he has several baby mommas) he began sensationalizing our sexual history. Disrespecting both her and I participating in the most disgusting behavior I’ve ever seen a man over 30 participate in. He told people he saw random men “run a train” on me and that I gave oral sex to dozens of men while he sat there and watched. Which was the furthest thing from the truth. I knew nothing about the swingers lifestyle when I met him. I had never participated in any kind of sexual escapades as outlandish as he claimed. I did however have a 3some with 2 men he introduced me to, under his direction. He took me to my first swingers house party. While he gave oral sex to several women on a filthy garage floor, disappointed and hurt, I began trying to find solace in a friend of mine in another part of the house. He broke the rules. One of which was to not give oral sex to others or to kiss other people.

I was a lingerie model….I’m no saint.

Yes, I’ve professionally taken photos for men’s magazines, I’ve been in music videos and on TV. I have a great deal of sex appeal. However, in real life I didn’t have an amazing sex life. The claims he made were ridiculous. The arrogance of this man and his lack of shame to be going around doing interviews, telling people private details about us on top of vicious lies insistent on embarrassing me. Meanwhile blaming ME for “telling our business.” Offline he’d torment me. Creating fake numbers only to use them to play on my phone. Admitting to me privately that it was him but lying to the public as if he wasn’t reaking havoc in my life. He’d created fake YouTube accounts on the internet and reach out to me. He joined my livestreams under a fake name consistently asking me questions about himself.

Later he’d join other people’s livestreams, forums and chatrooms calling me names and threatening anyone who would defend me. It was terrible. He reached out to the father of my son and told him false stories of me being some kind of whore who collects married men and feels comfortable with being a side chick. He accused me of stalking his daughter and tampering with his private information. All things I had never done. All I could do was defend myself. I even tried to make peace. I wrote entries on this very blog about this creep. After 3 years he still hadn’t stopped with his lies. Just last year he released images of us at the swingers party that were taken of me without my permission. This is when it occurred to me to stop being so nice and finally tell everyone what I believe his real problem is.

He is bisexual.

When he first introduced the concept of me entering the swingers lifestyle with him…My belief was that he loved seeing women have sex with each other or he’d want me to have sex with other women. But when he brought to my attention that he wanted me to have sex with 2 men I was confused even more. It was already a perversion to me for us to be involved in something so risky but I did it for him. It was his idea. He arranged it. He introduced me to the men he wanted me to interact with. It didn’t occur to me until after the 3some that Chris is bisexual. Yeah I thought about it before but this night solidified everything.

He himself didn’t participate in the 3some. That was just a form of cognitive dissonance. If he separated himself from the actual 3some itself in his mind that would erase any trace of homosexuality. However watching men have sex with each other or other women is still a homosexual tendency. I’m sure he has been with other men or at least thought about it. Most heterosexual men would not feel comfortable with seeing other men naked. Nor would they want to be in close proximity to one. Especially not see one having sex with ANYONE regardless of gender.

I was his beard.

Beard is a slang term describing a person who is used, knowingly or unknowingly, as a date, romantic partner (boyfriend or girlfriend), or spouse either to conceal infidelity or to conceal one’s sexual orientation. The American slang term originally referred to anyone who acted on behalf of another, in any transaction, to conceal a person’s true identity.[1] The term can be used in heterosexual and homosexual contexts, but is especially used within LGBT culture.

I stole that from wikipedia. LOL

For the record, Swingers are usually married people. They are known to swap partners and have a 3rd bisexual female partner called a Unicorn. I was under the impression that he and his wife were swingers. He led me to believe that she wasn’t participating as much as she promised she would and that she had cheated on him with another man. When he first asked me to come to a swingers party with him I thought he was out of his mind. It took a couple of months for him to convince me to participate.

So let’s revisit me participating in a 3some or for shits and giggles let’s hypothetically say a “train” was ran on me. (a phrase used to appease the immature beta males of the world). Why would that be something frowned upon but it’s completely ok for men to participate in a 3some with 2 women? There is no reason in the world why in the year 2020 there are still double standards placed on women and our sexuality as a form of control. Holding a woman to a sexual standard that you can’t hold on yourself as a man is demented. How is it ok that the world can call me a hoe for having a 3some with 2 men but Chris is not classified as a bisexual for watching 2 men have sex with each other and a woman?

All types of stereotypes have been placed on me all because of my gender and race. I participated in promiscuity for a short period of time to explore my own sexuality. I learned new things about my body that I didn’t know about by dealing with this man. This is not justification for doing something as bad as an affair. However people erase the fact that he participated. He was married. I was single. He was cheating on someone. I was not. But still somehow I’m the one being punished for his behavior meanwhile he seemingly has society viewing him as a victim of mine.

He knows I know his deepest darkest secret and just in case I shared it with the world he wanted to make sure people questioned my credibility. I never misjudged him. I am a bisexual woman myself. I’ve openly admitted that. There is nothing wrong with being a part of the LGBT+ community. However do not point in the direction of another person who has openly admitted the nature of their sexuality and condemn them simply because you are too scared to be honest about your own.

I decided to stop the release of the original version of the book so that it can be rewritten without including anything that has to do with him. It’s April 23rd, 2020 and I have rewrote this book 2 times already and I still don’t feel comfortable with the end product. So I haven’t re-released it.

Men have asked me for 3somes since but not 1 man has asked me to have sex with 2 other men. If I’m a hoe, Chris is gay. He never criticized any of the men involved just ME.


While the world quarantines and practices social distancing to stop the spread of COVID-19 Soncerae & her daughter deliver food around California using the food delivery app Doordash.

People who have been exposed to the new coronavirus and who are at risk for coming down with COVID-19 might practice self-quarantine. Health experts recommend that self-quarantine lasts 14 days. Two weeks provides enough time for them to know whether or not they will become ill and be contagious to other people.

Former NBA Player’s PSA Warning Men About Melanated Single Mothers” on YouTube

Former NBA Player Stephen Jackson had something on his heart that he had to get off about the mothers of his children.

The former NBA player took to Instagram so he deliver a very important message to the youngsters out there who are very promiscuous and dealing with multiple women.

Jackson stated to find one woman and have children by her and her only. He used himself as an example because he has children by 5 different women, and while he seems to be cool with two of them, he wishes he never met the other three.

Turn Coat Much Ms. Cookie???

People have repeatedly contacted me talking about this one female on YouTube who used to speak negatively about me over and over again. I never believed she did until recently somebody sent me proof. So I forwarded the proof to her.

Today she was doing a livestream where she was telling people she wasn’t my defender. Even though she spent months talking about the Viper Pit harassing me online we both needed people to understand that I didn’t pay her to defend me. I didn’t ask her to defend me and she isn’t my attack dog. In response I agreed to her saying she wasn’t my proctector and in return she blocked me from responding in her chat. She only used me as a tool to attack The Viper Pit. It was about the principle. I told the truth. Not like it’s anything she denies. We agree.

She then accuses me of sneak dissing. Like I have some kind of fear in my heart to sneak diss. Like I didn’t send her the contents of the email sent to me that contained the proof of her speaking negatively about me. No one is about to accuse me of saying some shit I didn’t say so I wanted her to know exactly what I said in response to the email. That was the purpose of me sending the email.

Inside of her livestream she decides to block me then go in on me without giving me any opportunity to respond. I asked for the link to join her livestream. She had already blocked me. So instead I posted my response on my YouTube Drama Channel.

Bitches be wishy washy. One minute they cool next minute they not….

Here are the contents of said email:

Hello Sister,
I am a subscriber to your channel and have been watching you for a few years. You need to leave the drama alone and make your humorous fun loving videos again. I see you are involved with so much drama with these different crowds online. You need to ride solo on your journey. Get back to making your livestreams and dont trust any of these youtubers. I wanted you to see this video that cluster be did about you and wanted to warn you to not get involved with her. She is really evil and treacherous. She previously made a video dragging you . Here is the receipts verbatim. I would advise you to not make a video about her but just stay far away. Btw when are you going to be back on your main channel again?
https://youtu.be/G8R3YqCNK88 time stamp 3:20 
She doesn’t have your back like she is claiming and cant be trusted 

Also Egypt Ann is exposing Angela bad mouthing you in emails on her channel now she is telling all your personal business be careful sis

Here was my response:

Thank you for sending me this but keep in mind I am a business woman. I am doing what I believe is best for me and my channel. Livestreaming is not what’s up FOR ME. I never liked doing it.  So I don’t do it. Staying out of the drama is what I been doing and what I keep doing. Speaking my truth about it doesn’t mean suddenly I’m being tricked into something. I’m not dumb.  I do realize that people are only on my side when it’s convenient for them. I understand that Cluster B is only after the viper pit. She is just using how they treated me as a tool to attack them.  Angela too. Cluster B & Angela are not #teamsoncerae. These bitches barely like me. I understand that. I’m not being fooled by anyone. Even if Cluster B used to say disrespectful stuff about me what she is saying now is that she is tired of seeing the viper pit hurt others. I know it has nothing to do with me. None of these people are really on my side like that and I get it. I’m not an idiot. Contrary to what you believe I DO NOT TRUST ANYONE. 
#1 Now this clip of Cluster B saying IDK how to hold and gun like she’s seen me hold one, if in fact she is speaking of me is absurd to me. She doesn’t KNOW anything about me or what I’m holding on this end. Best believe I handle myself. I got this Soncerae shit under control. I’m not a gutter rat but I will kill a bitch if need me. I survive. Period. I don’t pretend to be some big bad bitch who spent time in Central California Women’s Facility. I don’t know shit about prison and I don’t want to. But in self defense I’ll do what I have to do. I know how to dot a bitch eye. Step on a toe, chop her in the throat. I got this lolol.
#2 I had no problem exposing people on the internet who harassed me for months or years at a time. So who gives a fuck if Cluster B feels some type of way about me posting their legal name. Fuck them. They shouldn’t have been bullying me from a private account. 
#3 No one is going to defend or protect Soncerae like ME. NO ONE. Not Cluster B. No Angela….NO ONE. 
#4 In the clip attached I believe that Cluster B did not understand this situation months ago. And with time she has a better understanding of what has happened to me. Does the bitch like me? No. Is she my friend? No. I believe she is just expressing her opinion even if at one point in time she was guilty of the very thing she claims other people are doing to me. I DON’T CARE. I do not know Cluster B at all. I have no problem with her and I most likely never will. As long as she doesn’t come for my kids, money or physically come around me we are fine. She is on her side of the internet I’m on mine. 
People make assumptions all of the time and pretend like they are looking out for me when really I know what’s up. 
Take you for instance…..you are part of the problem too. Because you watch this type of shit. You have to be a supporter of EVERYBODY LOVES SONCERAE which is a sock puppet profile from a person who has lied about me on so many occasions. I got his last channel deleted. The person behind this channel isn’t an innocent vigilante trying to save Soncerae. He’s an asshole trying to keep mess going. Especially by him reminding everyone about what Cluster B said about me months ago. 
Cluster B is not innocent. Neither is Angela, Nylah, Taz, Bomb Cherry, DaNini, Warren, Lord Gaelick, STL4U, Chris Law, Minister Jap, E Alyce, L Boogie…..I can go on and on. All of us has said something in a reactionary manner being misinformed about another human being. I’m over it. Even I’ve done. Keep in mind please that these bitches and niggas can’t fool me. I know they game. I may play the part online that I need to but I”m not stupid. I learned the lessons already. I’m a real woman I keep it 100% and if anyone has a problem with me I’m sure they’ll reach out to me privately and say that. Anyone speaking about me negatively or positively online is doing that shit for entertainment purposes including Cluster B. 

Have a nice fuckin day.

The messiness is real in these streets. Now Cluster B mad because I agree with her?

The Messy Mind of Mona Symone

The recent behavior of my sister and fellow content creator Mona Symone has saddened me. It is extremely unfortunate when women of color have unresolved misunderstandings. Miscommunication that can easily be ironed out if both parties listen to understand instead of attempting to undermine.

When it comes to mental health issues, black women are more likely to experience them due to lower income, poor health, multiple role strain, and the “double minority status” of race and gender. In Mona Symone’s case she has Asperger’s Disease & Suicide Ideation. I did not know anything about the mental disorder until she explained it to me.  It affects her ability to effectively socialize and communicate. She gets confused and overwhelmed easily. While extremely intellectual in most areas Mona however, is greatly challenged in the emotional intelligence department. Others have used her slight form of Autism against her prompting her to second guess, get confused and over process information. When frustrated because of this Mona will lash out in ways that are unhealthy.

I’m not going to use any of my platforms to expose her past or present. Nor will I spread lies or express all of my personal thoughts concerning her. It’s unnecessary.

I am displeased with her recent behavior but it’s nothing for me to have a huge tantrum over. I’m an adult and want to handle her poor decisions with a level of maturity grace and class. I will not stoop to low frequencies just to address her. This is just a misunderstanding.

She has decided to use YouTube.com maliciously by sharing our private text messages. Though I am not ashamed of our correspondence after her negative behavior I still believe that the messages should have stayed private. Before she released our text messages she hosted a livestream called “Let’s Discuss The Soncerae Interview” where she was supposedly allowing others to comment on a Premiere shared minutes earlier of her and I discussing an interview Tommy Sotomayor did with my son’s Father & his ex wife. During her impromptu livestream she allowed trolls and people who have literally stalked me for years to call in, disrespect me and spread more vicious lies. They did not address the interview at all. It surprised me that she’d use her platform in such a manner. She could have at least gave me a heads up so I could call in and defend myself. I tried calling but she didn’t answer so I texted. After confronting her she made accusations and spoke disrespectfully to me. In response I wished her the best in her future endeavors and removed any promotional material of hers from all of my social media platforms.

Last year Mona was severely chastised on YouTube by hundreds of content creators and lost thousands of subscribers when she was found to have faked her death and staged a botched suicide. Her wife was said to have falsely announced her death on Mona’s community tab, April Fools Day. During this time she also began feuding with popular gossip Vlogger TashaK after Mona interviewed Rap Artist CardiB during her fued with Rap Artist Nicki Minaj. Other popular YouTubers have shared the same negative experience I have with Mona. Tampa, FL Rap Artist Khia viciously attacked her on TS Madison’s Channel during an episode of Queen’s Court. Other YouTubers such as Treecey & SweetMa4Life have also created videos addressing Mona’s disrespectful behavior towards them and others.

Because she lost so many subscribers and has low view count we decided to work together to improve both of our channels. We had plans to create a positive show for women of color where we discuss topics that can help improve their lives and #levelup.

Please listen to the audio below to hear more about the series of events and attached are our private text messages she released in part. Mona was warned that this type of thing would happen and people from both sides would contact us to encourage us to divide instead of work together to improve. She promised she wouldn’t respond nor be anxious to entertain drama and pick sides. Ultimately she did the very thing she said she wouldn’t.

Yesterday, after our last group of texts she joined another livestream on an obsessed troll’s channel and began discussing me negatively.

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YouTube StreetRat Egypt Ann Can’t Wait Until Soncerae Dies” on YouTube

Dealing with the troll infestation on YouTube has gotten old and tired to me. There is nothing less entertaining than complete strangers coming for me like I did something personal to them. I received an email. Ofcourse I did. *rolls eyes*. Ya never know….trolls orchestrate shit all of the time. These beef manufacturers want you at war with others so bad they accuse you of all types of espionage meanwhile are the catalysts for chaos. Flinging accusations, talking too much. Bullying others but sware they the victim. I just don’t have the maliciousness in my heart to go as far as these people do. Anyway Ms Montgomery *rolls eyes again* portrays herself as the whistle blower who is trying to save me from hell’s demons and informs me that Egypt Ann (a low budget bird without ambition that I have consistently said I have no issue with) wished death on me. I spoke more about it in this video. I’ve also attached the screenshots.

A Loved Woman’s Behavior

You will always be able to tell when a woman is loved. When a woman is supported you will know. When a woman is wealthy and healthy you can tell. Her character. Her behavior. How she speaks. How she talks. How she walks. Everything about her will exude confidence.

There are a lot of women out there under the impression that they are women worthy of another’s envy. There are powerless women out there who will do whatever they can to destroy the reputations of women they aspire to be. These women are to be forgiven because they do not know what they do. They do not know how to cope with what they feel it what they think. There are a lot of women out there who try to find love in the wrong places. When they aren’t getting what they need in real life a lot of times they look for it on the internet.

There are women in Loveless marriages. There are women with low self-esteem. There are women who are hurting because of their past pain. They are women with mental illnesses unchecked. There are women who are educated. But as a woman the worst thing that you can do is chastise criticize or judge another. Living in a glass house throwing stones and hiding your hands will eventually be the catalyst for your world’s shattering. Listen to my latest podcast by clicking on the YouTube video below.

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