Why Is ‘Angry Man’ So Angry? – The Reasons Failing Black Men Blame Everyone Else for Their Problems

 

 

Why Is Angryman So Angry?

The Reasons Failing Black Men Blame Everyone Else for Their Problems

By: Ray Alexander

ray.alex25@gmail.com

Angryman Valdez, an un-wed and never-married father of three children from Brooklyn, New York; a barber and tattoo artist now residing in Charlotte, North Carolina is pissed off at the world!

And, he is especially pissed off at Black women who he blames for all the ills and problems of the Black community.

Furthermore, Angryman Valdez spends his free time bitching, whining, and complaining about alleged Black Female Fuckery.

 http://www.blogtalkradio.com/obsidianradiolive/2016/05/08/an-evening-with-the-angryman-choppingitup

And he usually spouts his anger and resentment toward women and especially towards his baby-mama on video podcasts in the front seat of his 12-year-old Kia Forte compact economy car.

The Angryman evidently doesn’t have a den or business office in his apartment to discuss his anger issues so he does so in his tiny compact car. How telling.

So.

Why is Angryman So Angry?

https://twitter.com/angrymanchannel

What is the Psychology Behind His Anger and Vitriol Towards Black Women?

Most male anger comes from feeling like a failure as a protector and provider.

These acute vulnerabilities can be stimulated by the mere unhappiness or displeasure of his wife, [or girlfriend, or baby-mama, or women in the general society] even if [their] distress or negative states have nothing to do with him.

And he [the failing man] is likely to blame his sense of failure and the feelings of inadequacy it stimulates on her [the woman he actually desires and wants to love, protect, and provide for].

[But since he is failing he is angry and resentful at her because he either cannot or simply will not perform his role as a responsible and productive man].

Blame Gives Failing Men Status as Victims

Victimhood gives him a temporary sense of self-righteousness, along with a retaliation impulse, which, in turn, stimulates anger.

The adrenalin rush of anger, like any other amphetamine-effect, always crashes into some level of depression, at least in the form of self-doubt and energy depletion.

He then uses a low-grade resentment to militate out of depressed mood – to gain temporary confidence and energy.

Resentment keeps him partially aroused most of the time and highly susceptible to angry outbursts.

Chronic blame keeps him mired in victim-identity, which continually reignites the cycle.

He gets caught on a recurring roller-coaster of resentment-anger-depression-resentment-anger-depression.

Once this pattern becomes habituated, the content – what makes him angry – is no longer important, as he will look for anything to give him the adrenalin shot he needs.

[Incompetent and failing men like Angryman Valdez get pissed off about paying $400 a month in child support but don’t have a problem with the rest of society paying for a $15,000 Medicaid bill to birth his child.

Incompetent and failing men like Angryman Valdez get pissed off about paying $400 a month in child support but don’t have a problem with the rest of society paying for $600 a month in SNAP food stamps or WIC to feed the child that he seeded.

Incompetent and failing men like Angryman Valdez get pissed off about paying $400 a month in child support but don’t have a problem with the rest of society paying for a $2000 emergency room bill via the Children’s Health Insurance Program to provide medical treatment for the child that he seeded.

Incompetent and failing men like Angryman Valdez get pissed off about paying $400 a month in child support but don’t have a problem with the rest of society paying $1,400 a month in Section 8 vouchers to house the child he seeded].

He becomes a kind of anger-junkie, in search of blame to get his fix.

He lives predominantly in two emotional states, either buzzing along with some form of low-grade anger or plodding ahead in mildly depressed mood.

His life becomes joyless.

The man who feels inadequate at love [manhood, male power, and privilege] . . . feels bad because of the way he fails his family [and his society] now.

Men in our culture are especially vulnerable to feelings of inadequacy and especially prone to misinterpret them as punishment to be avoided rather than motivation to change [and to improve their] behavior.

[Instead of self-improvement, these failing men lash out against women and the general society that demands and expects them to be responsible and productive because they don’t want to improve themselves but remain in a childlike state as irresponsible teenagers in adult-male bodies]

[However,] by developing new habits of connecting-by-protecting, [men] will realize that [they] feel far more valuable and powerful when [they are] compassionate [rather] than angry.

[Hopefully, over time] they will realize that compassion for loved ones is power.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201004/anger-men-and-love

Men Must Be Competent in their Male Roles to Feel Good About Themselves

https://www.freeimages.com/search/happy-black-family

Men Must Be Competent in their Male Roles to Feel Good About Themselves

Men aren’t socialized to experience any value by just being there for their partners.

They need to solve problems.

[Men] are taught from a young age that [they] have to be strong.

To have it together.

To be competent.

And [when men] feel like [they] can’t solve a problem [this feeling of incompetence] leaves [them] in a place where [they] don’t feel like men.

[They] feel incompetent.

[They] feel like failures.

[Incompetent men] blame [their] partners [when they fail].

 

[They’ll say things like, “You’re never satisfied!” or “It doesn’t matter, because no matter what I do, you won’t be happy.”

These comments reflect a deep internal trigger that [they’re] not only frustrated with [their] partners, [they’re] even more frustrated with [themselves] for not being able to figure out how to solve the problem.

[When men] can’t figure out how [they’re] supposed to act as husbands, [committed boyfriends] or fathers, [they’re] utterly devastated and ashamed.

So [they] go inward and internalize.

To [women], this may look like apathy or callousness.

For men, [their] whole lives, [they’ve] been taught that [their] value comes from what [they] produce, not who [they] are.

[So to fail in the male role of protector and provider is devastating so incompetent men lash out rather than learn to protect and to provide. Incompetent men cannot successfully problem-solve so they escape to the blame game.]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meaningful-change/201709/how-failure-impacts-men

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meaningful-change/201709/how-failure-impacts-men

 

 

SCREENSHOTS OF EMAILS I SENT TO MINISTER JAP TELLING HIM TO LEAVE ME ALONE! ONLY TWO EMAILS OUT OF MANY!

 

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