Here’s a topic i really want to hear from an outsiders perspective.
Let’s say you’re dating someone and you’re open to an open relationship. You are both on the same terms. If you find someone you want to be with, you are allowed to pursue it but you have to tell the other person. But only one of you are actually exercising your right to be with other people.
I have been called dumb for believing it is alright to let the person i love sleep with other people, although i am not. I am satisfied with this single human being but he likes to have fun sometimes. I believe as long as we’re on the same page and he’s clean, it’s fine because he’s coming back to me at the end of the day and he is mine. I’m not really a possessive or jealous person and he’s the person who makes me happy in this world. Is this love, is it dumb, am i naive? Just want to hear some of your thoughts?!! -Diamond Davenport
You aren’t stupid for living how you want to live or choosing what you want to choose. I believe that the real question is why are you comfortable with your partner keeping his freedom meanwhile you aren’t exercising your own. See men love variety but they hate for their women to have that same option usually. So the second you do find a man or more than one your arrangement will become a problem to most men. I believe that people are aware of that and that’s why they question your judgment. Just be prepared for the possibility of the tables turning. This sounds like a temporary arrangement. So don’t be surprised if you wake up one morning and change your mind or one morning he does. A lot of the times dishonesty becomes an option because of the arrangement. The arrangement will somehow make someone believe that you do not care about how they behave so they get lazy and begin to disregard your feelings. I know you heard the term “give them an inch they will walk all over you.” It just seems like a door to another issue. All that matters at the end of the day is that you are happy. It doesn’t matter what we think and you don’t need us to justify your choices. Just be sure that you understand that each choice has a consequence and you have to be able to deal with that. 🙂 – Soncerae