$264 A Month in Child Support Still Makes You A Deadbeat Dad

I’ve always believed that putting a man on child support was a waste of time. I’ve made videos on my YouTube channel plenty of times discussing child support. I’ve talked about how I didn’t want to put my son’s father on child support. I’ve talked about how my son’s father asked to be on child support and then when he lost his job he called me and asked me to take him off it. Earlier this year he went a couple of months without paying it. Then I was told by the child support services office that his pay was garnished and that I’d be receiving payments soon.

Check out my latest podcast about this. https://www.spreaker.com/episode/18994958

Now I’m assuming there must be a level of confusion amongst people online who for some reason have been commenting in my comment section about Priest and his child support payments. I never wanted child support and I still don’t. I do understand that child support is for my son not me. So I put my child support payments in a trust fund for my son.

I was awarded $264 a month in child support. Which is chump change in the state of California. The reason that that child support payment is as low as it is is because I make a substantial amount of money higher than my son’s father makes. I am responsible for 67% of the expenses in regards to my son. I am his custodial parent. The only benefit I received from filing child support is the DNA testing. AFTER lying to me about his ex-wife SaDonya and him sleeping with other women, to add insult to injury, he accused me of cheating. Then, humiliated me by lying to people saying that I was a mistress he didnt give a fuck about and that I was trying to pin a baby on him that wasn’t his. Because he is in Georgia and I am in California it was difficult for us to agree on what DNA testing company to use. So to make things easier I simply filed for child support knowing that a DNA test would be required by law. Below is a screenshot of our current child support status.

Like I’ve said before Justice’s father is behind on child support payments. I’m not the type of woman that’s going to sit around and wait for some man to help me out with my life. When I was sick during my pregnancy I needed for my son’s father to be there just like any man should be there for a woman he claims he cares for. He chose not to be there. He was asked plenty of times how he wanted to proceed. He was always unable to make a decision. The only solid thing I had heard him say while he was sitting directly in front of me was that he was willing to pay child support. I asked him to physically be there for our son. He refused to be a part of his life. I don’t know what kind of lies he tells when he speaks to other people about me and our son. Whatever he has to say is irrelevant to me. I have no control over that. He has never met our son and he most likely never will. That’s just fine to me. Justice and I will be just fine. We made it this far without him.

At first I was hurt because I felt like I deserved better from my son’s father. But with time I got over it. Because my son’s father made the choice to not physically be there for our son even since before he was born he will always be classified as a deadbeat dad in my eyes. Men need to understand that a child support payment doesn’t suddenly make you a good father. Had Priest shown genuine interest in our son then I would have believed that there was a possibility that he wanted to be a good father. He doesn’t want to be a good father. He’d have to try much harder than he has to prove he is worthy of being in our son’s life . He hasn’t taken any real initiative. It will take more than getting online convincing strangers to believe you’re a good man. You actually have to show me! Not sit around doing a whole bunch of talking. Priest just wants the world to believe that he is doing his best. I’m sorry but my standards are much higher than he is able to reach. He is definitely too lazy to try. As afraid as I was and unprepared to be a mother to a second child I managed to pull it together for my son. I displayed a level of bravery when I could have had an abortion or gave my son up for adoption. Priest did not want me to have an abortion but he did want me to put Justice up for adoption. I knew the only person in the world that could love my son the way he needed to be loved was me. Is me! Also my family wouldn’t allow me to make such a poor decision in regards to my son simply because Priest walked away from us and I wanted my son to have a two-parent home. That wasn’t a good enough reason to give him up for adoption. The foster care system would have been bad for him.

Priest is a coward. He ran from taking care of our son. And he will say anything negative about me that he can find to help justify why he walked away from his own flesh and blood. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again… there are people out there who will refuse to hold him accountable. Those are the people he talks to about me. The people he talks to the most about this are irrelevant. My haters have no say in my life. Idk why he bothers with them at all. The only person that he needs to be talking to about this trying to redeem himself is me. The person he avoids the most is the person that he needs to explain himself to. He has me to answer to. But he’s too busy on the internet trying to depict himself as a victim so that he can receive a adoration from a whole bunch of strangers neither of us know. Continuously taking proverbial steps backwards.

I don’t want this man around me or my son and I hope I never see him again. All he needs to do is sit down shut up and pay his child support… Get a better circle of friends, his GED, a stable well paying job, his own house and car and try to get on my level. I’ve never lied about this man and my experience with him and I never will. I’m not going to waste my energy trying to convince everyone else in the world about my situation with him. Both he and I and God know the truth. The good thing about this is what goes around comes around and I very much believe in karmic energy. So while he does the dog and pony show, tap dancing for whoever he needs to to get the adoration he so desperately desires, I’ll be mothering our son. He’ll be missing out on some of the most amazing experiences imaginable for a man. He won’t see the life of his first born son. If he knew better he wouldn’t even waste his time with interviews, gossip and negativity. He’d be over here trying to figure out what he needs to do as a man to get closer to his son. That’s where he needs to put his energy instead of in the poisonous place he’s putting it.

We are not in each other’s lives so I do not understand why he chose to do an interview online about me recently. We don’t talk. I don’t reach out to him. He doesn’t reach out to me. We are not interested in each other. His attempts at trying to hurt me or embarrass me or whatever malicious intent they were ineffective. I want absolutely nothing to do with him and I am completely fine with the arrangement. I believed that he moved on with his life. But apparently as he was conducting an interview with Youtube content creator Tommy Sotomayor he proved otherwise. It makes sense that he would choose such a terrible platform to express himself. Because the men inside of Tommy Sotomayor’s audience all have disdain for African American women. Tommy himself is a deadbeat to at least 2 of his children he has fathered with multiple mothers. Most of the things that my son’s father has to say wouldn’t be acceptable to a more intelligent and affluent audience of men. So of course he would need to speak to people who can be easily misled. Those who stand for nothing fall for anything. Ignorant people are always addicted to negativity lies and conspiracy theories. It’s easy to entertain a group of socially awkward underachieving men who are having difficult times with their finances marriages and careers.

My son’s father will only be able to relate to men with criminal records, no education and a history of abusive violent behavior. That’s the type of low-energy man he is. No man of high IQ can stomach the idiocracies associated with the men who are entertained by Tommy Sotomayor. The only type of men who could relate to my son’s father would be men who are as unsuccessful in life as he is. Priest would only bring chaos and dysfunction into the life of our son and he has proven that by interacting with Tommy. This isn’t the first time that my son’s father has surrounded himself by people of negative influence who assist him in spreading slander & libel about me. Priest continuing to spread lies and gossip about me just to make himself look better than what he is only proves that what I have said about him and his poor character are all accurate statements. Tommy Sotomayor is known for having the proclivity to disrespect women. As a father getting onto Tommy’s platform speaking disrespectfully about his son’s mother is a step backwards from creating a healthy co-parenting environment for his son. Priest doesn’t bother trying and some wonder why I can’t stand him. This is why. The deflection and lack of determination. No goals or aspirations. Homie…be a father. All of that other shit is irrelevant. Priest can tell the world that I have hammertime on my toes, body odor, three breasts, snakes on my head like Medusa or carpal tunnel it would not matter nor would it change the past or disprove that he is a bad father. So all of the insults he wasted his time throwing at me on Tommy’s Channel or spewing in anyone’s ear who’s willing to listen do not affect me at all.

I don’t hold on to the past. However I will be more vocal about my experiences with him so that other women can be more selective about the men that they choose to bring into their lives.

My son and I live well without his father. I appreciate Priest keeping his toxicity and drama away from us. Moving on with my life was easier than I thought it would be. I love my son. My son loves me. We are all we need.