Struggle Love: Black Women Can Be Happily Single & Financially Free

This morning I did a podcast about some of the comments I receive on YouTube when my Spreaker podcast is automatically uploaded to it. I have YouTube channel called The GodQueenLive Podcast that is solely for audios of my show The GodQueenLive. Here is the link to the episode I did this morning:

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/19032279

BE SURE TO TAKE A LISTEN!

Inside of this podcast I spoke about how I burned through a million dollars by having an entourage or staff with me everywhere I went. I had a staff to pay. I paid for VIP Sections, Bottles of liquor, food, transportation, hotel stays, photographer & make up artist fees. I bought clothes. I also paid car notes, mortgages and rent for some of these people. During the podcast I said that I’d post images of me to show how big my entourage would be everywhere I went. I’d always have at least 5 other people with me. I’d make sure they ate free and drank as much as they wanted to. THAT COSTS MONEY! LOTS OF IT!

What led me to talk about this was a comment someone left under a photo I posted of me and my 1 year old son. I spoke about how happy I was. How I am finally financially stable and I’m living the life I want. I also spoke about how my child support payments are low because I make so much money.

This is what he posted:

As if a woman can’t be happy and financially stable without a man. My situation is the perfect example of me turning lemons into lemonade. However because I do NOT have a man this idiot assumed I must be struggling. Even though the post he commented under said that I was doing well as a single mom. People want to believe so desperately that single mothers don’t amount to much. There is this stigma placed on us that if we did not MARRY before we had children, we will be doomed. That is not the case for me. I am doing pretty well without the help of my son’s father.

The struggle was real when I was dating my son’s father. We ended up living in extended stays and for some time sleeping in the back of his Ford Explorer.

People blame me for this. When all of this was his idea. 

He was using me for money. Without me implying anything at all, he assumed I was a millionaire. He assumed I was a celebrity YouTuber who would take care of him financially. Of course I am always talking about how financially stable I am when I’m able to work. But when life happens and I can’t take care of myself and work like I’m supposed to of course JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER PERSON my bank account will take a hit. Even though I finally let a man take lead over my life (trusting him to kick into gear when I needed him to and he didn’t) somehow people have still made this be my fault.  I ended up severely ill during my pregnancy and he did NOT take charge like a man should. He didn’t kick into gear because his motives were not pure. He was not in a relationship because he loved me. He was in a relationship with me because he wanted my money.  Not only was that a mistake to begin with, (me trusting a man with my life) but the mistake was choosing the wrong man in general. Inside of my podcast my message to women was instead of relying on men to set them and their kids up for life financially. They should simply do well for themselves so they won’t need a man. A man is a luxury not a necessity. Women need to make sure in the event a man can not provide for them that they can provide for themselves.

I DON’T NEED A MAN. IF A MAN IS IN MY LIFE ROMANTICALLY IT’S BECAUSE I WANT HIM TO BE THERE. I DO NOT USE MEN FOR MONEY! I DO NOT MISUSE MEN AT ALL.