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Experiencing Online Harassment; Breaking Down The Haters

(Keep in mind that if you click any of the images inside of this blog they link to another blog entry or website. Also any underlined words are all linked to another blog entry.)What I don’t think I’ll ever understand is why some men think that it’s completely fine to harass women. Consistently speaking negatively about women. Manipulating women. Cheating on women. Gossiping about women. Abusing women. Disrespecting women. With so much ease they do this but can’t take what they dish out. If you notice my opinions as far as men go stay an isolated rant about my son’s father. He deserves every bit of negative commentary I speak about him. Yes I’ll keep speaking about it until I’m tired of doing so and not a second beforehand. It’s been 2 years since we broke up however we have a 17 month old son together that is a constant reminder of his Father and the betrayal associated with him. It’s some internet weirdos out there who actually think that because I talk about my son’s father and my real life experience with him that means it’s ok for them to harass me online. At first it took me a long time to not talk about it every day or break down crying everyday but with time I pretty much got over it. Now when I speak on my YouTube Channel, this blog or My Podcast “The God Queen Live” about my son’s father, Priest, it’s to warn women to never ever get comfortable with a separated man who is definitely headed for divorce. But most importantly don’t be so quick to trust men no matter how kind, honest, consistent, loving and attentive they are. You could be being love bombed by a narcissist. Give it time for his true colors to shine.I trusted a man. One who at the time had a seemingly estranged wife, SaDonya, who was always up in our business, playing little Facebook games. Hounding my social media profiles. What’s even more weird about her was she was oddly trying to convince me that it’s ok to move forward with her estranged husband. She was all for Priest and I being together. She gave me the go ahead and celebrated us starting a relationship while they were still going through divorce proceedings. She was head over heels for someone else she proclaimed. I spoke in specifics about her while including screenshots of her statements in this blog entry called “Cut The Bullshit” . I don’t know what possessed me to think I was safe just because Priest’s mom, brother and SaDonya told me I’d be ok. Why did I trust those people? Why didn’t it occur to me that these people could be lying to me? Of course Priest & SaDonya are officially divorced now but it happened much later than they told me it was.

I remember when Priest and I were breaking up, he believed a ton of lies people on the internet told him. He then started to accuse me of lying to him. See how comfortable he felt with listening to complete strangers about our relationship? I had never lied to him before they reached out to him so why now suddenly did he believe I’d lie to him? They didn’t even show him any type of proof my statements were lies but he just went along with it. Why was that ok to him? To simply listen to other people who were outside of our relationship? People who had never ever met us. I trusted him even though I had caught him in a few BIG lies and a shit load of small ones. I gave him a chance to prove to me that he could be an honest man and keep his promises. I was always honest with him and here he was accusing me of lying. Even if I did lie why would it be such a big issue to him after he lied so much? I deserved to be chastised because of some rumors he heard but I was supposed to simply forgive him for his indiscretion? Not only was he deceptive but he was loquacious. He told SaDonya all of our business. He’d go behind my back and talk to her about us. This woman was too involved in our relationship. She was involved with too many haters online who were known to spread hateful, false information about me.Let’s talk about my online haters in detail. I have plenty of course. It simply comes with the territory. We’ll just talk about the main ones who have caused problems in the lives of others while trying to hurt me. They kept missing the mark.Tommy Sotomayor, Minister Jap & Chris Law

I have several blog entries up on here about these stooges. I never seen men bitch so bad about women before in my life. These grown ass men behave like 3 gossip girls on a schoolyard. These men are all 3 men I rejected at some point and they still harbor some kind of pain about that. They depict to the world that I have somehow did something terrible to them. When really it isn’t about anything I’ve done to them. It’s the enjoyment they get out of degrading me. It gives them power that they don’t have in real life.Chris Law is the only one I actually had some type of interaction with. I was his side chick 10 years ago. Before he got married he and I would mess around with each other casually. We were friends who showed each other love. Yes, we’d grab dinner and play pool. We frequented bars and went to events together. He introduced me to the swinger’s lifestyle and took me to my first swingers party. It didn’t stop once he got married. It just slowed down. After his divorce from her he remarried and had another child. He showed up at my doorstep trying to restart our friendship even though he was remarried. He spoke about how he had been to counseling. He came to apologize for what he had done to me. I told him to leave the past in the past. However, he spent the next few years walking around Atlanta, Georgia with a bullhorn telling every MAN he could find that I was a hoe. It wasn’t until 2016 I got on my YouTube channel and warned women about the dangers of sleeping with married men. He caught wind and got upset. This is when he ran into Minister Jap. Both of them begin playing on my phone and doing all types of childish antics. Chris & Jap were texting me for 2 months pretending to be a woman who wanted to ask me questions about my experience with Chris. It wasn’t until Chris got frustrated because I wouldn’t speak specifics about my Order of the Eastern Star chapter. During one of those texts he admitted it was him and Jap pretending to be a woman.

Minister Jap was creating content on YouTube that was barely getting watched when I reached out and asked him to collab with me. We ended up doing one collaboration together. It can still be found on Facebook.

It was the first video we did that went viral. I was going to invest in this man’s career. I soon found out that it would not be wise to continue to interact with this man. He displayed a level of disdain for Black Single Mothers. It was unfortunate to me. Before this, he had expressed some type of romantic interest in me. It was mutual I was interested in him as well. But this disdain he had gave me pause. He made single mothers the butt of his jokes and it simply was not funny. It was insensitive and abusive. His statements were highly inappropriate and cruel. I reached out to him to tell him that I was uncomfortable with some of his material that he was posting on Facebook that was disrespectful towards women. He got belligerent and rude. He called me out my name. Once I ended the conversation I refused to answer any more of his phone calls. That’s when the stalking and harassing begin. He begin calling me 100 times a day. He’d leave disrespectful voicemails. He began threatening my life. He posted pictures of me nude he found from somewhere. He started calling me a tranny. He made fun of my sexuality and my gender. As well as my skin, hair and weight. He started reaching out to my ex partners, family members, co workers, business associates and anyone he could find that would say something negative about me. He even interviewed my ex Lloyd. Jap begin lying to people telling them I doxxed him and stalk him. He begin spreading vicious rumors about me online. Him and Chris linked up in my comment section of the very video I posted telling people to avoid being a mistress.

I found out Jap had admiration for Tommy Sotomayor from day one. Many years ago Tommy was reaching out to me on Facebook and his advances were being ignored. I was in a relationship so I couldn’t talk to other men. Tommy tried for a year to get my attention. It wasn’t until he asked me to do an interview on his YouTube channel that I responded to his messages. Once we set up a time and date I’m assuming he made an announcement on his channel. One of my fans reached out to me and told me that he was speaking negatively about me in his promotional video. So instead of jumping to conclusions I reached out to him about my concerns. He then proceeded to tell me that the negative things he said about me were the truth and that he could say what he wanted about me. I cancelled the interview with him and wished him the best. I tried to move on. He then created several more videos about me. After about the 4th or 5th video I responded. For years we begin to go back and forth on YouTube. He’d accused me of stalking him and he’d make up vicious lies and rumors. In 2013 his fanbase swarmed my comment section. He gave out my phone number on one of his videos. His fans harassed me over the phone for a week. I received thousands of hateful phone calls 24/7 by men who were harassing me about my gender and race. I received death threats and people encouraged me to commit suicide.

Once Tommy caught wind that Jap had some sort of issue with me he interviewed him for his channel. Then Chris followed also doing an interview with Tommy.After my pregnancy became public Jap reached out to me trying to convince me to break up with Priest. He called him “Dirty Dick Rodney”. When I refused, Jap reached out to Priest. Encouraging Priest to break up with me. After 2 or 3 years of bickering online about dumb shit, Priest ended up doing an interview with Tommy with SaDonya‘s dumb ass in tow. I’m sure it was Jap encouraging Priest to do it.What’s interesting about the people who chastise me the most they never take a look at themselves. Tommy Sotomayor is a deadbeat dad. He has several baby mommas. Yet he uses his platform to trash Black Women and single mothers. Like he doesn’t foster the negative relationships he has with the mothers of his children. My daughter’s father is not online complaining about our co-parenting experience at all. We have a very good comfortable loving friendship. He’d never participate in that foolishness. Priest has never met our son Justice so speaking to him about how he and I interact with each other probably wouldn’t be a good call. My son’s Godfather and I also have a very positive caring friendship and he is a really good Father to my son. But Tommy wasn’t trying to get the truth about my life he was trying to start drama. It’s a lot of men who are supportive of me and my son. Issues with men online do NOT effect my personal life. It was more men who gave me donations to help me move from Georgia to California.

 

Priest didn’t even graduate from high school. He doesn’t have a GED either. He is a blue collar worker who never attended college. He has low income if any at all. He doesn’t drive. Doesn’t have a car. Doesn’t have a home of his own. After 15 years of marriage to SaDonya he had nothing. No kids. No legacy. NOTHING. I tried to help him be a better man. We started Yahaura together. Which was the beginning of many other businesses we could’ve started together if he knew anything about loyalty and team work. Minister Jap is a drunk as well as a drug addict with a criminal record. He lives in the gutter of Chicago and only front’s like he has a life that other men should admire. However he’s just a loser with a failed rap career who harasses women to make himself feel better about his misfortune. I wanted to invest in his career that’s what made me reach out to him to begin with. I had enough money to spare and I wanted to spend it on elevating him. I wanted to help him be a better man. Out of frustration, jealousy and hatred he purposely ruined my relationship with Priest. Jap tries to make everyone believe he doesn’t continue to harass me because he doesn’t speak out about me publicly like he used to. But Jap continues to harass me behind the scenes.

Chris Law is a drunk as well. He’d drink so much he’d throw up. I don’t think I ever spent time with Chris when he wasn’t drinking. I know I’d have at least 1 drink while I was with him. Chris is on his 2nd or 3rd marriage so he was in no position to chastise me on the internet about my relationship with Priest. Chris was not man enough to openly say he made a mistake cheating on his wife. He just got online and pinned me as poisonous manipulative Jezebel with a porn star’s sex drive who made his life hell. When Chris was happy with me. All we did was laugh and have sex. No complications. I was genuinely Chris’ friend 10 YEARS AGO. I do NOT know him now but then I did not judge him and I never would have hurt him. Not ever. I listened to him tell me stories about how miserable he was in his marriage and how much he didn’t trust her. She was never around and I honestly believe that he was if anything a good friend to me. I respected the fact that he never lied to me about his relationship and he didn’t lie to me about his marriage. I was going through so much hurt and pain in my own life that being with him helped me through. Yes he turned on me. He betrayed me later on. He even he posted intimate pictures of us at a swingers party and lied telling people we made a sex tape. Even to this day I still hold no hatred in my heart for him even though he helped ruin my relationship and my family with Priest.

Tommy is a deadbeat dad with a criminal record who has admitted to being as such as well as admitted to being sexually attracted to underage girl. He has also has participated in molestation. He talks about how much he hates the Black Race especially Black Women but this is what the community calls a reliable source about all things Soncerae?

LaVonya “Bomb Cherry” Edwards & Sean “STL4U” TuckerBomb Cherry is one jealous broad. She is a complete stranger yet she is so invested in my life like we had some type of solid life experience with each other. We have never met and I have never done anything to this woman. However, Jap fueled her. If you haven’t noticed a pattern let me reassure you that Jap is the catalyst for a lot of drama I have experienced on YouTube. Any type of issue I’ve had all fingers point back at Jap. The only reason why Jap even interacts with Bomb Cherry is because she is willing to speak as negatively about me online as he does. If she didn’t he’d be calling her a hoe just like he continues to calls me that.Bomb Cherry used to come inside of my comment section and we’d talk. After a few months she became overbearing and ended up getting into an argument with someone inside of my comment section. This was the second time she had caused a problem. At first she got into it with ME on my own channel. That was the first red flag. After she got into it with someone else I simply blocked her and proceeded to move on with my life. Instead of her moving on she took to her YouTube channel and has been stalking and harassing me online ever since. It’s been 3 years.

Everyone can tell how much Bomb Cherry wishes she was me. I get emails from people telling me not to worry about her because she’s jealous. I’ve never seen a person talk so much and so bad about someone they hate like she does me. She is obsessed. She has lied and said I sent someone to her house to sexually assault her. She has made almost 100 videos about my vagina. She has interviewed SaDonya on her channel more than once. I don’t even know how SaDonya could even allow herself to be around this slut. Bomb Cherry is a webcam porn hoe who also makes money doing phone sex. She claims she is a married woman. The truth is her marriage is open and loveless. This crazy geriatric troll has not only reached out to Priest and SaDonya she has called my mom, swatted my mom’s house, tried to reach out to my oldest daughter. From fake email addresses and phone numbers she reached out to my cousin Shunna and my Aunt Julia who are only related to me through Priest. (Read this blog) I’m sure Priest or SaDonya handed over their information because I had never spoke in detail about either of them for anyone to know their last names or what they look like.

In Bomb Cherry’s many years of harassing me online she birthed another troll named STL4U who also harasses me as well. Only because Bomb Cherry told him to. Not because I did anything to him personally. He’s going around claiming I posted his private information. Like I initiated some type of issue with him. He forgot to mention how he continue to harass me and this compelled me to post his information on my blog so the authorities can keep up with him. He repeats anything Bomb Cherry says. She has him out in these “YouTube Streets” looking super stupid doing her bidding.I received an email the other day it said:Hello Soncerae my name is mike from canada. Not sure if you are aware that one of your youtube trolls stlfu has a criminal record
one of the felonies he has is for child abuse. check out the
attachments. I find it odd that he is discussing children, when he has a felony for child abuse.

So let’s reflect….Bomb Cherry is a webcam porn hoe who does phone sex operations and has also committed welfare fraud. She has a criminal record. SaDonya also has one. Now here is Sean Tucker who has both felonies and misdemeanors but somehow these people are trying to convince the world that SONCERAE is a huge problem?Now everyone for the most part knows my moderators names are Mr Live & Mark. Sometimes people harass them just because we get along. Mr Live contacted me the other day and to my surprise he asked me who LaVonya Edwards was. At first it caught me off guard. I was surprised he didn’t know who she was. But he was so used to me calling her Bomb Cherry he had no idea that LaVonya Edwards was her real name.

He goes into this long story about how Bomb Cherry some how found him on Facebook and begin trying to get them to connect romantically. This is supposedly a married woman. Yet she was out here sending nudes to my moderator. She was trying to encourage him to hang out with her. She even knew that he worked at Bank of America previously and claimed that she saw him there. This is stalking. She not only stalked me so hard that she found out the personal information of my moderators. She then begin to stalk my moderator. This chick is demented on so many levels.So Sean STL4U Tucker makes these crazy 3-8 hour livestreams about me that proves he is unemployed. No one with a work schedule has time to do all of that. Maybe listen to a livestream, yes! But do one NO! He did one recently called “WHO SWATTED SONCERAE” If you don’t know what swatting means. It means that some internet weirdo with no life or morals sends police to raid an innocent person’s house simply because they don’t like that person. I did a podcast recently talking about someone sent police, pest control, plumming, chinese food delivery guys and pizza delivery guys to my mom’s house thinking I lived there. I’m not as open as I used to be about my living situation but I have clearly said on more than one occasion that my mom and I DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER and that I changed my LEGAL NAME. So finding me is difficult. Sean tried to act like he didn’t know who was swatting my house. Bomb Cherry already called my mom’s phone and left a belligerent voicemail saying it was her who did it. I know Sean knows that. He’s her lap dog. Of course he knows it was her. It is also her who contacted Aunt Julia and Shunna as well as my daughter’s father trying to cause drama. It didn’t work. We still cool over here. My family loves me and they have my back. Just because you got Priest & SaDonya, the gruesome twosome, dumb and dumber to turn on me doesn’t mean you’ll be able to pull that bullshit on anyone else. Who else would participate in such adolescent behaviors?

  1. I would never interview anyone’s family members for my YouTube channel. (I interviewed Tommy’s Ex Avi AFTER he interviewed Chris Law and Jap for his channel.)
  2. I will never post anyone’s private information simply because I do not like them. If I’ve ever posted anyone’s private information it is on this blog and because they have been harassing me.
  3. I do not reach out to anyone’s family members offline.
  4. I would not try to pin people’s family members and friends against them by telling them lies and gossip.
  5. I have never sent anyone any threatening or blackmail emails. If anything I’ll openly say what my intentions for you are on my blog, youtube channel or podcast. Or I will simply contact you directly.
  6. I have never swatted or sent anyone to someone’s house simply because I don’t like them.
  7. I have never played on anyone’s phone pretending to be someone else.
  8. I have never trolled anyone’s social media profiles from a fake profile.

YET THESE ARE ALL THINGS THESE PEOPLE HAVE DONE TO ME. BUT SOMEHOW THEY DEPICT THEMSELVES AS MY VICTIM!?!?

Rudemp has literally stomped Sean. He has verbally stripped Sean’s manhood away. The truth is Sean is powerless in real life that’s why he allows a porn hoe to run him. She tells him what to do. Just like Jap tells Chris and Priest what to do. Bomb Cherry tells Sean & SaDonya what to do. These people are puppets. Rude is another YouTube Streets content creator who can hand someone their ass if need me. Rude treated Sean like the roadkill he is but Sean has not obsessively harassed him how he has done me. It proves that when a man addresses him he can’t handle it but he can definitely abuse and belittle a woman. Men who aren’t accepted on the playing field with other men end up being mentally manipulated by older women and abuse other women. I don’t even bother responding to Sean. He just makes videos and I ignore them. He is trivial. It’s not worth the little bit of attention I’m giving it right now.I’m bringing this to everyone’s attention so people can understand something. In no way have I harmed ANY of these people in real life. I never depict myself as a perfect person. I’ve simply fought back against them for humiliating me or harassing me. One thing these people don’t do is self evaluate. They don’t see what they did. Or they do see but they can’t handle that it’s genuinely their fault why things have gone the way they have with me. They truly do not see their part in contributing to or primarily causing their own problems in life. This is an unconscious barrier, so you shouldn’t try to “make them see” their part in the problem. That just increases their defensiveness and makes things worse. Keep in mind that emotions are contagious, and high-conflict emotions are highly contagious. So when you see people online acting overly emotional and sensitive when they are talking about me, I’m only being used as a tool. It’s not really me that’s the problem. They don’t know me personally. Everyone has flaws and things they need to get over. Nobody goes through life without making mistakes or doing something they’re ashamed of. That’s why people who criticize others have no basis for their arguments. When the criticism becomes constant and vicious, that person is probably not making a healthy assessment of your mistakes. It’s probably more like the defense mechanism known as “projection.” They see you as a mirror; they criticize the things in you that they don’t like about themselves. As far as men who harass women online like how Tommy, Jap, Chris and Sean have done to me I just view it as they have no power in real life when dealing with women. Women dominate them or women reject them. They can’t have their way with women. Cybersexism and Cybermisogny is a real thing. As men often rely on aggression to maintain their dominant social status the increase in hostility towards a woman by lower-status males is an attempt to disregard a female’s performance and suppress her disturbance on the hierarchy. These men are sad that I am doing better than they are. I am a woman of power. I control my life and my situations. I create my success. I own my flaws and I accept my past. I am true to who I am. Some people find that hard to do. I am just not that person. None of these people are perfect. They all have a checkered past. However, they make it seem like my past is worse than theirs. We all have things we did that we aren’t proud of.

Usually when someone doesn’t like a person they just leave them alone. Not harass them. I’m surprised I had to defend myself against strangers and at one point I was extremely kind to them. My heart goes out to these people and I have a level of patience with them that I never used to have. Even without me responding these people will continue to harass me. They actually believe they have a right to when they do not. I try to have compassion. As annoying as they have been and no matter how much I want them to leave me and my family alone, they think harassing me is funny and entertaining. I simply send them positive vibes and move on. They try to hide their grief, their pain and misfortune. If getting online brings them some type of relief I try to understand that. I’ve even tried to apply some of the advice they have tried to give me to my life. That may not be smart considering the sources. But remember we can learn lessons from all types of people who are in all walks of life. Respect each others journey. Take care of one another.

The Type of Man Who’s Willing To Marry The Notorious Single Mother

Some people have held my past choices against me. I’ve heard someone have the nerve to tell me my past was checkered. Not that that wasn’t an accurate statement but I was confused. They spoke of my past like they didn’t have one and I was convicted of murder in the first degree. A checkered past is one that involves periods of time that were good and periods of time that were bad. So why are people so judgmental like they have never made a mistake or had bad taste? People are always talking about what you used to do like they never shit their pampers. Somebody broke up with me during my pregnancy. It’s not unheardof. I was a lingerie model, wasn’t the first one. Definitely wasn’t the last. I was honest about havin sex with a married man almost 10 years ago. Mistresses and side chicks are more common than the average person wants to admit. I’ve been transparent about it all on purpose. Why? Because these are things people are afraid to be honest about because they’ll be ridiculed. Meanwhile those same people who ridicule the most have done worse.

I remember why I was a mistress. Before I made that choice I kept getting hurt and abused. I was cheated on over and over. I was trying to get over the woman I used to be. The faithful one. The one who was pressed for marriage. The woman with the engagement ring on, cooped up in the house, waiting for my fiance to come back in town. While he was out frolicking with his side chick in Miami, his other side chicks in Atlanta would call my phone and brag about how good his d**k was. Yeah I was that dumbo. I finally got sick of it and freed myself. I tried anything I could sexually to open up. I did a split on top of a married man quick. Let me stop. I’m exaggerating. I wasn’t that savage. He wasn’t married when I met him. We were just friends at first. I knew he would be getting married eventually. I was just fine with him not wanting to do that with me. One would believe that this encounter would be the main reason why people chastise me most. NOPE….it’s that I’m a single mom. Yep. A single mom. No he didn’t get me pregnant. BY THE GRACE OF GOD! But I avoided relationships for almost a decade after that.

I have had poor taste in men sometimes, so I’ve been the woman out here with a bullhorn begging other women to not choose what I have. I don’t want to steal life lessons from the ladies but I do want women to avoid the heartache I have experienced. All over my YouTube channel I’ve tried my hardest to share stories of my mistakes as honestly as possible. Being a mistress didn’t even cause me heartache. It introduced me to a new way of doing things. New kinds of relationships and my own sexuality. Of course I’d never do it again. Not because I didn’t gain anything from the experience. But because I am no longer in that place. Also I don’t want to hurt another woman. I don’t encourage a married women to expect a mistress to protect her marriage or relationship when her own husband or boyfriend doesn’t have respect for it. I can also reassure women that if it’s not one woman it will be another if in fact your husband or boyfriend is hell bent on cheating. As insecure as I was I can tell you that the last person I was thinking about was his wife. I was trying to make it past my own pain daily. I spent most of that experience under the influence of alcohol, running from my own problems. I was heavily sedated throughout it ON PURPOSE. My experience with him served it’s purpose. Not like I fell in love. I was so broken from the relationships prior to my experience with him that I didn’t have the wholeness required to love anyone but my self. He was on my low level at the time. The kind of heartache that was the worse kind happened later on when I did fall in love with the wrong man and subjected myself to catering to a man that was not on my level intellectually, spiritually, financially or emotionally. I ended up pregnant and he abandoned us both. It doesn’t bother me that he left the relationship. I was more hurt at how he treated an innocent child. Our son is almost 2 and I’m considering taking another man serious. Here are some things I’m sure any new man who comes into my life could possibly be concerned about or that I myself am concerned about.

  1. My new man will think: I’m still in love with my baby daddy and because we have a child together he’ll always be able to have access to me and my vagina.

Sorry to inform you but I’m sure he and I have a mutual hate for each other that is deep rooted enough to melt any type of love any person can imagine we have for one another. Unless people loved each other, kids won’t make them stick together. If it was meant for us to be with each other we probably wouldn’t have broken up to begin with. Especially being as though we have a child together. I wouldn’t let that serpent touch me. He has too many demons.

It’s hard to judge a book by its contents, when the cover tells a lying story. Lame males will front & play the role of a MAN when they first meet a woman, then once she gives him her heart & her loyalty before requiring his faithful commitment, he switches up & reveals himself for the mentally immature little boy he is. – Ebrahim Aseem

2. Some people think no one will want to help me raise my son. Men are terrified of the responsibility of taking care of someone else’s child.

Not every male is weak. There are real men out there who are Alpha and can handle the role of being a step father. It takes strength however it also takes maturity. Boys aren’t afraid of being stepfathers they are just too immature to handle that responsibility. When a grown man deeply loves a woman he loves all of her. Including her children because they are a part of her.

3. Some men are intimidated by me. I’ve achieved so much and I am extremely successful. Men will run from that.

In case you didn’t know, most single mothers are successful. They have money in the bank. We pay our own bills and do our own thing. A man is not necessary for our survival. HOWEVER, there are men out there who love that they are a luxury to us. They are happy to not be holding the burden of solely providing. They know that relationships are a partnership. And if I can hold my own without a man, as long as I am healthy, I can definitely hold up my end inside of a relationship.

4. Some men think I’m so desperate for marriage. And that because I’m a single mom when I date, I put all of my marriage hopes on that man. Even before marriage is mentioned, I show a man I am wife material.

A man is lucky if he can get a home cooked meal from me. Especially with me not being his wife yet. I honestly do not have the bandwidth to do anything spectacular for a man to take interest in me. He’s going to love me for exactly who I am because jumping through hoops will never be what I do. I have potty training to consider, fruit and veggies to mash up so my son can eat, I have a job, a business and side hustles to tend to. I do not have time to think about marriage. Even if I’m dating. I will be surprised if I’m proposed to. Marriage is another job. Most women who know better are not pressed to hop in one. People pressure us to be married because we didn’t get married to the father or fathers of our child or children. I have a standard that most men will never meet. My son’s father barely touched it while on his tippy toes. He definitely f***** up that opportunity by squandering his riches. It will take a man doing grand gestures of the romantic kind who has impeccable moral character for me to consider marrying him.

Stop with the assumptions fellas, start asking questions. Contrary what you’ve been told by beta males who are challenged in the penis department, dating a single mother is pretty cool. If you are going to date us this is what you need to understand.

  1. Be prepared by being flexible with your schedule. We will not be hounding you around. We have too much to do. I will understand if you have to cancel.
  2. Don’t assume the position of step dad. The idea that all single moms are dating with the exclusive goal of finding someone to marry us and alleviate some of the parenting burden and keep our kids from growing up in a Broken Home™ (*insert overly dramatic anguish face here*) is offensive, in addition to being laughably wrong in so many cases. Most women who do NOT have children are dating you for the exclusive goal of finding someone who wants to marry them.
  3. Our homes are not BROKEN they are just DIFFERENT. Broken is the man who decided to abandon us. If he wasn’t he’d be the Father he protested he would be before our son was conceived. There was something wrong with HIM. Not me and my son. There is nothing broken about my home.
  4. Stop thinking of me as a “SINGLE MOM” and just think of me as a woman that you are attracted to and want to go on a date with. I’m different from other women only because I have stricter boundaries than they do. I do not negotiate.
  5. I am independent and resourceful. I’m raising my son alone. Do not expect me to be clingy or rely on you for everything. If you want space or time to yourself I will most likely respond, “OK”. Just like most single mothers would. We are used to being on our own.
  6. The way single mothers love is different. We are unconditional. We learn to love harder because our kids are all we have. Our patience, love, and capability for nurturing has more depth because of our kids. If you’re good to us, you’ll have a more faithful, supportive and loving life partner than you’ve ever had.
  7. I know what I want. I have reevaluated myself over and over and over. Trust me! That’s kind of what happens after you break up with someone and are left behind to take care of a child alone.
  8. I am particular about who I date. I have a child to worry about I can’t just get down with any random man who makes empty promises.
  9. Yes good guys date us. I’m a single mom not Quasimodo. Just because I’ve had a child doesn’t mean good men are walking around avoiding me.
  10. I already have kids so I’m not going to pressure you to have them with me. My motherhood is not a separate island off the coastline of myself. It is part of me. Most women will want to date you just so they can marry you and procreate. I’ll be dating you for YOU.

I hope this helps. Please be sure to check out my latest The GodQueen Live Podcast episode. In it I talk about navigating the negative opinions associated with Single Motherhood and how men can handle them.

Dedicated To My Trolls – The Daily Purge Has Now Commenced

My favorite rumor being spread about me right now is… my son doesn’t have a bed. I know right! LOL Where do people get this s*** from? My son has a bed and a playroom. He is happy and well taken care of. I went from being pregnant and homeless to living like the Queen I am all before my son turned 1 and the best rumor these idiots can come up with has something to do with furniture? I will sleep on a bed of hot coal to make sure my kids are good. They live better than me. So many rumors have been spread about me for so many years. Now to the point that I don’t even care. What others think of me is unimportant nor is it my business. It’s a distraction. I simply just have other things I’m more concerned about. Like my money, my career, survival… you know… s*** that matters.

I know it’s a hard pill to swallow for those who hate me, loved to watch me be homeless and are now watching me improve my life and live it full of luxury and privilege. They assumed I’d be stuck in an extended stay hotel broke, heartbroken, abandoned and pregnant forever. Now that I’ve moved on with my life, I’ve noticed that a lot of people on social media have not. I have got to stop saying social media when really it’s just YouTube. Only YouTube. No other place am I trolled so severely.

I want to express my opinions freely so of course I understand that doing so begets criticism. I’m a tough cookie. IF I wasn’t prepared for backlash I wouldn’t have stayed on YouTube this long. I’m so nonchalant about what others have to say that I can’t stand when people say “keep my name out your mouth.” Like that has ever made someone shut the f*** up. I think that statement has only made some people stop talking loud about you and start whispering instead. Emphasis on some. I only prefer that people are honest but life experience has shown me that most people can’t do that. They have too much ignorane, self hate pride and ego to do so.

Trolling is not some new phenomenon. But I realize that a lot of people are annoyed by it just like I am especially on my YouTube channel. After a while I begin to heavily moderate my channel because the trolling was getting out of hand. Certain topics that people would speak about in my comment section would make a video or live stream become demonetized. Not only was I getting sick of seeing people arguing I noticed that most of the time it was trolls versus intellects. The trolls were only posting defamatory slurs or threats, lies or trigger words for entertainment purposes. Trying to be funny and s***.

I’ve created a lot of different channels on YouTube none of which we’re welcoming to trolls. I realize that a lot of people who are trolls just want to be heard and understood. Me ignoring them damn near hurt their feelings. What they desperately wanted was to get my attention. Then there were people out there who just wanted to criticize me. Claiming that they are exposing me. Telling everyone they know the truth about me as if they met me. I’m sure the same person who lied and said my son doesn’t have a bed is the same person who claims they are exposing me. Guess where they are exposing me at? On my own YouTube channel.

Not my main channel.

SonceraeFan #singlemomlife

But another Channel I created called:

The GodQueenLive Podcast.

Which is simply a place where all of my podcasts are uploaded. And guess what…. I left the comment section wide open. I purposely do not moderate the comment section. I purposely do not read the comment section. Part of the reason is because I don’t have time to. But the main reason is so that anyone who feels like they want to express their opinion whether they are trolling or not can openly elaborate about what they think over there. Posting disrespectful comments on my main Channel will not be tolerated. Simply because it’s a professional channel that is more about family healthy communication and positivity. There is more than enough dysfunction online. I just don’t want it in my home or in my space. I do understand that by being in the public eye or on social media in general I have to deal with the opinions of others. Again, I am not offended by criticism. I am more concerned about avoiding harassment, stalking, trolling, disrespect, racism, sexism, misogyny and controversial trigger topics. Most of the people who have taken the time to comment negatively about me as much as they have lack critical thinking skills. They barely think anything through long enough to be able to make solid judgment about me or anything that I am doing or saying. Those topics I discuss as far as the black community or topics that they bring up inside of my comment section not only destroy any chance of advertising being on a good video they also disturb my community of supporters who are there to participate in healthy dialogue with other true supporters.

The God Queen Live podcast YouTube channel is there for people who lack the discipline required in order to have healthy dialogue. None of us can escape those who want to troll it’s inevitable. Even in the real world we have to deal with assholes. The actual podcast is entertaining, insightful and informative but of course the trolls who listen to it on YouTube will always beg to differ. Because the purposes behind why they come in the comment section speaking negatively of me and thumbs down everything has more to do with them wanting to vent out their own frustrations. They use that channel as a punching bag. Their words hold no power. I don’t take it personal. I think I used to. It’s hard to take any of them serious. What they do only has meaning if I assign meaning to it. What they attempt to do to me is tunneled into the spam folder of my life.

The solution to this is simple. I’ve deleted and blocked liars so many times on my main channel I’ve lost count. I will continue to delete and block so that my main Channel is a place for those who support me not those who want to spread hate or lies about me. S***’s called soncerae fan not soncerae hate. I had to separate the two crowds. The low-energy crowd fellowships on the God Queen live podcast YouTube channel. There they gossip, lie, manipulate, be messy, rude and disgusting. Meanwhile the high-energy crowd fellowships on my main Channel. There they listen to each other, have healthy dialogue, speak positively, honestly and are respectful to me and each other. EVEN DURING DISAGREEMENT. My channels…my rules. I’m the beginning and end on both platforms.

What channel you spend most of your time on says a lot about who you are. All I know is I refuse to let these idiots f*** up my money. So they can get away with saying whatever it is they are saying on The GodQueen live because I allow it. Most people can look at that channel and see who the trolls are. They can see that the problem are those people who participate in tearing another person down. Smart people can spot ignorance. They can see the difference. Not everybody walking around these YouTube streets being stupid.

I’m unbothered. Not worried one bit. I’m out here capturing that good energy baby. I let the haters hate. I let the gossipers gossip. I’m in control. The more they comment, the more they engage, the most subscribers I get, the more money I make. I am a business woman those haters who comment the most on The God Queen Live channel are my employees and they better stay on they job.

They just dumb enough to believe it’s all entertainment.

Soncerae Plays Internet Games with Priest’s Family 😱

So someone was stupid enough to send this to my cousin Shunna and actually believed she’d buy into it. How did they even get Shunna’s phone number? I never posted her number her last name or images anywhere. The only people who could have given out Shunna’s info was my son’s father or his ex wife.

My cousin knows me better than any troll from the internet. She knows I have never posted her pictures online and she knows I’d never say anything negative about her. I love my family. Period.

I just posted this blog about this foolishness yesterday.

https://misssonceraevideos.wordpress.com/2019/09/09/lavonya-edwards-is-at-it-again/

So whoever this was from YouTube who was texting Shunna from a fake number jokes on you. Her I and Julia have better shit to do than entertain madness. You can’t convince people that I’m messy when I’m not. You texting her to begin with was YOU starting a mess. She knows better. Everyone in my family does. You can’t use my family against me. You can’t use my son’s family against me either. Shunna knows I will do anything for her. So nice try but the tricks on you.

LaVonya Edwards Is At It Again

I’ve always talked about how supportive some of my son’s family members are. My son’s father isn’t the best father in the world but he has some family members that are very positive and drama-free. I’ve mentioned these two women Aunt Julia and cousin Shunna a couple of times on my YouTube channel. Shunna asked to be on my channel with me a few times and I told her no. I didn’t want her harmed. Then one day we decided to do a live stream to smooth things out between me SaDonya and Priest. We wanted to do something positive. Talk about sisterhood and love. But hours before we could even do that SaDonya participated in a hateful live stream with geriatric troll LaVonya Edwards AKA Bomb Cherry. This was SaDonya’s 3rd time on Youtube discussing me, months before her 4th. SaDonya, claiming she wants to stay out of internet drama and clear her name, was allowing herself to be interviewed by people who have an obvious disdain for me. If you want peace with someone or to stay dramafree the last thing you’d do is interact with said person’s enemies. She wants the world to believe she is being bullied by me but keeps provoking me. She chose these people to interact with purposely. It is NOT coincidence. It disappointed Shunna and I so we decided to no longer do the live stream. But of course Shunna and I still have a positive relationship and Aunt Julia still supported my son. Even gifted my son for his birthday. I will always have a level of respect for these two women because they care for my son.

One of the reasons why I adore Shunna is because she is such a good mother. Not only has she survived brain surgery she has endured a great deal of pain as of recently. She lost someone she loved so deeply and still managed to stay strong through it. I have so much love for her and it won’t fade with time. She is my cousin who feels like my sister. She welcomed me with open arms and no judgments. Her sense of humor is the best part about her. I laugh out loud every time we talk. I also talk to her children. They are all always so kind to me.

Aunt Julia encouraged me to be kind and compassionate. She suggested I be mature and patient with Priest and SaDonya. She has never disrespected me and is a really good listener. She was the first person from Priest’s family to acknowledge my son without needing a DNA test. She knew when she saw Justice that he was Priest’s son. She was generous and showed genuine care for my son. She was the first family member of Priest’s to openly gift my son.

It saddens me to say that unfortunately my adoration for them has been used as a tool to cause more drama. People trying to use my own family against me says a lot about the climate of this country. There are people out there who have nothing to lose. They have no family. No respect for boundaries and know nothing about long lasting love.

Today Lavonya Edwards took to her Youtube channel and maliciously posted pictures of Julia with her husband along with pictures of Shunna. Accusing ME of exposing them. How does that makes sense in this demented troll’s mind? She’s posting their pictures, first and last names but its ME exposing them? How? People like this continue to cause harm to me then tell the world I started something with the. The title of the video reflects her obsession with my vagina.

That’s so sad. Priest and SaDonya trusted LaVonya Edwards on numerous occasions. When I advised them both not to. Yet they did it anyway and now Priest’s innocent family members are being exposed. Not because of anything I did. Two people who never said anything negative about anyone are being misused and exploited just so an insecure elderly whore can receive social acceptance online. I’ve mentioned Priest’s family members including his sister who was mean to me. His mom who I loved until I found out she deceived me. As well as Priest’s brother and Grandmother who were both kind to me. However, I would never post pictures of ANY them or reveal their first and last names. It’s unnecessary.

The question is how did LaVonya Edwards get images or info about either of these women without me releasing any of their personal information? She didn’t get it from me. I can barely stand the broad. I’d never give that bimbo information about anyone. The only way she could’ve got this information was from Priest or SaDonya.

LaVonya Edwads is one nasty webcam porn phone sex hoe who has been stalking me for too long. I have way to many blog entries discussing how she harasses me online. I’m sorry but frankly bitches over 45 are supposed be baking cookies, enjoying Grandkids and loving life. Not trolling on the internet. LaVonya continues to try to escape from her loveless open marriage by using me as a person to severely criticize and degrade.

This is the foolishness I have to deal with on a regular from complete strangers who will do anything for attention. Then guess who wass in the livestream spreading lies….Minister Jap….. Why am I not surprised. The butthurt loudmouth is most likely the ring leader behind why my son’s father ended up doing an interview with Tommy Sotomayor. Priest is so dumb. Not even realized he is being used by the very man who encouraged me to break up with him. The very man who wished he could take his place.

Yes….that clown….still trying to push the false narrative that my daughter is pregnant. She is NOT pregnant. She is a virgin.

During the stream while a picture of Aunt Julia and her husband is malisciously posted Minister Jap says when my daughter first came to Cali she visited Planned Parenthood. What a moron. She never visited one. She knows about them because teens are taught they exist from their Health teacher in High School. Also they are in affluent neighborhoods here in California. We see them here all of the time. My daughter has never been pregnant. My daughter has never had sex.

On top of that someone from a blocked number called my daughter’s father yesterday claiming my daughter is in danger and it’s because I’ve doxxed people. Doxxed is a famous term trolls use on YouTube. I’ve heard that bullshit term used nowhere else. My daughter’s father had no idea what it meant. This FEMALE troll told him I post people’s addresses and SSN. The only person who keeps accusing me of that is this woman. All that digging LaVonya Edwards did to find Shunna and Julia. I’m sure she put that same energy into finding my daughter’s father. But if someone was to do any of this to her she’d be crying victim. The second someone shows her this same disgust in return she’ll be somewhere crying her eyes out.

My daughter’s father moved out of Atlanta and retired from IT & Telecom. Leave him alone. He out in the world finding peace. He is doing the kind of field work he really enjoys. He deserves it. He’s been sitting behind a computer for decades. Now he helps me with my clothing line Yahaura.

This is so sad to me. It gets worse. Inside of this livestream she is spreading another ridiculous rumor that was started by another content creator.

I would never harm my children. I was never beat up during my pregnancy nor did I inflict pain on myself during that time. If I truly didn’t want my son so badly that I wanted him no longer alive I would’ve simply got an abortion not punch myself in the stomach. When are y’all gonna stop with this stupidity? Never? Ok I’ll do you one better and detach myself from the bullshit.

I will continue to post any nonsense that includes stalking or harassment of any kind that I am aware of so that authorities can keep up with this stuff.

Check out my latest livestream about this issue.

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/19051724

SaDonya, Ex Wife, Move on and MIND YOUR BUSINESS!!!!

My son deserves better than what he is getting from his father. His father’s performance record is low partially because a jealous ex of his won’t move on with her life. All I asked was for Priest to father our son all of this other drama SaDonya seems to keep starting online is childish and unnecessary. These 2 people are divorced how the fuck does it make sense that these 2 are anywhere together discussing me and my son?

This mugshot having battle ax needs to stay in her lane. Which is the lane furthest from me. She keeps tempting me. I will do anything for my son. She keeps causing harm to him by whispering bullshit into his father’s ear and I’m losing my patience. I want this bitch out of me and my son and his father’s life. That’s what divorce does.

My son’s father is not to bright. He continues to make poor choices under the manipulation of this woman. Our son deserves better.

She keeps trying me. Pressure bursts pipe and if she keeps coming for me and my family this will escalate unnecessarily.

Struggle Love: Black Women Can Be Happily Single & Financially Free

This morning I did a podcast about some of the comments I receive on YouTube when my Spreaker podcast is automatically uploaded to it. I have YouTube channel called The GodQueenLive Podcast that is solely for audios of my show The GodQueenLive. Here is the link to the episode I did this morning:

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/19032279

BE SURE TO TAKE A LISTEN!

Inside of this podcast I spoke about how I burned through a million dollars by having an entourage or staff with me everywhere I went. I had a staff to pay. I paid for VIP Sections, Bottles of liquor, food, transportation, hotel stays, photographer & make up artist fees. I bought clothes. I also paid car notes, mortgages and rent for some of these people. During the podcast I said that I’d post images of me to show how big my entourage would be everywhere I went. I’d always have at least 5 other people with me. I’d make sure they ate free and drank as much as they wanted to. THAT COSTS MONEY! LOTS OF IT!

What led me to talk about this was a comment someone left under a photo I posted of me and my 1 year old son. I spoke about how happy I was. How I am finally financially stable and I’m living the life I want. I also spoke about how my child support payments are low because I make so much money.

This is what he posted:

As if a woman can’t be happy and financially stable without a man. My situation is the perfect example of me turning lemons into lemonade. However because I do NOT have a man this idiot assumed I must be struggling. Even though the post he commented under said that I was doing well as a single mom. People want to believe so desperately that single mothers don’t amount to much. There is this stigma placed on us that if we did not MARRY before we had children, we will be doomed. That is not the case for me. I am doing pretty well without the help of my son’s father.

The struggle was real when I was dating my son’s father. We ended up living in extended stays and for some time sleeping in the back of his Ford Explorer.

People blame me for this. When all of this was his idea. 

He was using me for money. Without me implying anything at all, he assumed I was a millionaire. He assumed I was a celebrity YouTuber who would take care of him financially. Of course I am always talking about how financially stable I am when I’m able to work. But when life happens and I can’t take care of myself and work like I’m supposed to of course JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER PERSON my bank account will take a hit. Even though I finally let a man take lead over my life (trusting him to kick into gear when I needed him to and he didn’t) somehow people have still made this be my fault.  I ended up severely ill during my pregnancy and he did NOT take charge like a man should. He didn’t kick into gear because his motives were not pure. He was not in a relationship because he loved me. He was in a relationship with me because he wanted my money.  Not only was that a mistake to begin with, (me trusting a man with my life) but the mistake was choosing the wrong man in general. Inside of my podcast my message to women was instead of relying on men to set them and their kids up for life financially. They should simply do well for themselves so they won’t need a man. A man is a luxury not a necessity. Women need to make sure in the event a man can not provide for them that they can provide for themselves.

I DON’T NEED A MAN. IF A MAN IS IN MY LIFE ROMANTICALLY IT’S BECAUSE I WANT HIM TO BE THERE. I DO NOT USE MEN FOR MONEY! I DO NOT MISUSE MEN AT ALL.