Men Play Mind Games To Get Your Body

I’m 37 and originally from Washington DC. Atlanta has taught me a lot of things about men in the 17 years I’ve been trapped here. Specifically that they can’t be trusted. I believe what gives women hope that men can be trusted is these bullshit nauseating romantic comedies. I just saw some shit on Netflix called “BOY BYE”. A successful promiscuous real estate business woman falls in love with a strikingly handsome business man whom conveniently forgets to tell her he’s married. After 3 days of pure bliss with him at a singles retreat, his wife shows up at the vineyard where the retreat is held and bursts through the doors of their hotel room on some Love & Hip Hop shit. Promiscuous real estate business woman goes ham and doesn’t talk to him for months.  Right on que, 3 months later, he shows up at a celebration of hers with divorce papers in hand and asks her to date him again. Shit should’ve been called “BITCH PUHLEASE!” Because that’s exactly what a nigga would’ve said if a side piece would’ve got mad at him for being married and proceeded to give that bastard an ultimatum. Nigga would’ve gave every excuse in the book why he couldn’t get divorced. And don’t even get me started on the fact that she was sleeping with 3 other men not even a week before this damn retreat. Can you spell TOHT backwards? Women please wake up and smell your coochie. If you think you can get away with being a dick hugger and the rumors of you sleeping with these men aren’t going to climb up the spine of the man you’ve decided to be faithful to randomly and reach his insecure brain resulting in him questioning whether or not you are going to be faithful to him you got another thing coming sis. These men are weak minded. They couldn’t think on their own without another man’s 2 cents if 50 came to get the other 48. Speaking of Curtis Jackson, In what magical land with gumdrops and coconut sprinkles is this going to produce a damn happily ever after for you? I’ve seen POWER. The season has never ended with a wedding. I’ve been celibate for most of my damn adult life and 1 threesome I had 10 years ago has some men still calling me a hoe. A man I dated with 4 baby mommas and 6 kids judged ME for that and almost didn’t want to date me. That’s the world we live in. The real world.

Let me just say that I definitely don’t believe in that love shit. Before you say oh it’s just the guys you’ve chosen Soncerae. Let me reassure that I don’t go around choosing a damn thing. These bozos casually approach me with every intention on fooling me to drop my panties or whatever else makes me worthy of their time. Their worse than these bitches who use dates as excuses to scarf down a free meal at a 5 star restaurant. If it isn’t a wanna be radio personality calling me professing his fake love for me so he can guarantee he gets some birthday sex this weekend, it’s an underachieving photographer trying to ‘one up’ my ex who was also a photographer and become a better business man than he did by having me, a business major, on his arm. Either way I’m being used for something. If these niggas could they’d snatch the air I breathe.

I sat at the Shaking Crawfish off Buford Highway on Sunday afternoon with an old friend as he candidly spoke to me about how love and sex aren’t the same thing and frankly don’t match. Shits like water and oil if you let him tell it.  He elaborated on the notion that sex is just a recreational activity that men participate in and for women to not take it personal if men just use us for it. I couldn’t believe my ears. I questioned was his mind in the right damn place or had he flug that shit out the window of his Benz on his way there. In what world is it ok for a man to dress up like he’s Mr Fuckin Wonderful only to get what he wants and creep off into the moonlight snatching a woman’s soul like that? Have you gone completely mad I wanted to say to his straight jacket needing ass? I mean really sex is not that hard to get. If you want some pussy that bad go after the chicks that give it up freely. Say that’s the type of man you are. SAY that’s all you want. Some women will be happy to give you some. Some women are on that tip trust me. They are just as promiscuous as you are. But no NOOOOOO men have to go after the woman who is waiting for the right person. The GOOD WOMAN. The woman who is harder to get. They want to conquer that and move on and that’s the sad part. It makes me as a woman not want to be the woman that they try to conquer. But what other choice do I have? The woman who makes men believe that she devalues herself that much that she shouldn’t require that he commit? There is nothing wrong with a woman making that choice for herself if that’s what she wants. But I refuse to allow a man to simply get the benefits of being with me without him putting in the legitimate work into dating me. Get to know me. I like men who have at least some sort of discipline. I’m not saying he should walk the path of Brother Moses. IJS at least show me that not any woman can just have you as long as she has a functioning vagina.

Don’t judge me, yes I dated a man with 4 baby mommas. Don’t even get me started on lowering that standard. You try to give a nigga the benefit of the doubt and hope he takes the righteous path but he just can’t help his fuckin self. So I can’t blame him for screwing up it was MY DAMN fault! I shouldn’t have even rode that ride. I know the difference between a nigga and a BLACK MAN. The problem is it’s not enough BLACK MEN and it’s TOO MANY NIGGAS.

Being Stalked By Minister Jap | YouTube Drama

Some people blur the lines of reality. Stalking is about fixation and obsession. People on social media fling the word stalker out there too easy. I’ve been called a stalker several times by men I don’t communicate with or contact. These men all share something in common. Either they couldn’t control my behavior and I refused to do something they asked or I rejected them romantically. MRI studies show that the brain’s response to rejection is the same as its response to physical pain. So, it’s not surprising that people react in the same way as they do when they’re punched in the face. Man gives attention to a woman. Woman expresses her lack of desire for said attention. Man immediately turns hostile.

I believe that men use the term “stalker” so that their victims reputation’s lose creditability. There are plenty of times I have been extremely polite with men and they have still interpreted my rejection as some kind of personal jab. Why is it so hard for men to accept NO? When a woman receives unsolicited attention that she decides she isn’t interested in, she’s forced to respond in a way she believes will create the least resistance. And don’t let that woman be African-American like me, suddenly all types of racial slurs are added to these attacks. A man who complimented me on my beauty and intellect, one who was once interested in me microseconds earlier has now erupted into a derogatory term volcano.


One of the biggest mistakes I made earlier this year was doing a YouTube Video collaboration with a man by the name of Minister Jap. When I first saw him I was absolutely smitten. I don’t really do the whole light-skinned man thing. It’s not really my style. Besides the last two light-skinned I dated gave me problems. How can I value a man’s worth by his pigmentation? Easy, darker skinned men have always proved they are wealthier in the personality AND penis department. I haven’t hit every ball in the league so I can’t say that all fair-skinned African-American men aren’t worth shit, however from my own personal experiences men who have lighter skin have some serious character flaws and entitlement issues. The cocky and arrogance of any man who find’s himself attractive is humdrum to me, however light-skinned men tend to sprinkle that “I think I’m all that” shit on top of their personality. At first glance I’m charmed and intrigued, then after careful consideration I’m suffocating smothered in cheap cologne and cheesy anecdotes. Looks can be deceiving.

As we speak I barely have time to write this blog. My uncle passed away 2 days ago. I’m still hurting about that and I’m just a tad bit overwhelmed with all of my financial responsibilities and obligations in relation to being a mother. Nonetheless, there is something that I have to get off my chest.

Every man I love I lose. Every man I’ve liked has some sort of displeasure in relation me. Every man I’ve involved myself with has single-handedly destroyed my perspective about all men. So my remedy to all of this is don’t become enchanted. I’ve detached myself from men entirely. 

Most of the men in my past are still my friends to this day. Because we were friends before we were in a relationship. We have close friendships, great rapport, adoration and show an extreme amount of affection towards each other. We even say I love you. However, I have better friendships with men I have never been sexually connected to. Or so I thought…

Minister Jap and I did a collaboration earlier 2016. I wasn’t too fond of the topic because he wanted to make a mockery out of my two-year celibacy. He believed that women should have sex with men on the first night. I on the other hand encouraged women to wait until after they’ve gotten to know a man. Whether it’s 60 or 90 days it’s up to them. I just don’t think having sex within the first week of two people meeting each other is a good idea. He tried to convince me that women could still get respect from men if they had sex with men on the first night. Ofcourse I wasn’t falling for that bullshit. But I did fall for his charm and humor. I liked him a lot. I had every intention on getting to know him beyond YouTube and as far as I knew that was his desire as well. I wasn’t in as much of a rush as he was however after our first collaboration no matter how childish and immature he sounded I still believed he had potential to be great. I always see good in people. It’s something I do initially and even after they’ve proven me to be wrong I still find something positive to say or think about that person.

Before we did our video together, he told me that he mostly talked about single mothers in his videos. When he said it to me I thought that was very kind of him to give advice to single mothers. I assumed he was a Derrick Jaxn or Trent Shelton type. I had only saw a handful of videos of his and none of them addressed single mothers. It wasn’t until we became friends on FB that I realized what he truly meant when he said he talked about single mothers. Not only did he talk about single mothers but he disrespected us, made fun of us, chastised us, considered us the worse women in the world to be with. It was so sad to me. I was so hurt. How could someone I thought was that amazing turn out to be such an ugly person? There wasn’t an ounce of positivity in sight. All I saw was hatred, rudeness, aggression and belligerence. It was disturbing the amount of carelessness and compulsive posts that were covered on his page all directed towards single mothers and he actually swares it’s the truth. All of the generalizations in the world he says about single mothers don’t make me up as a woman. I know plenty of single mothers who are nothing like the women he speaks about. He had even indirectly made a post about me that specified our interaction togethet.  I was burned. We were still in our beginning stages and those times are the best times and for all of it to crash down so quickly shattered my world. I was into him so hard. I’ve met and dated plenty of guys. It comes with the price of beauty. I turned down a lot of guys, I’ve even gave guys chances to prove they’d be good suitors for me.


History taught me to always pay attention to that first sign because that first sign tells you EVERYTHING. You just have to listen. So I pulled away from him. This is when the problems started. He’s created false profiles all over social media contacting me. Even when I’ve blocked him he’s created other profiles to contact me. I don’t understand the fascination he has with me. He told so many people how much he hates me. Usually when a person hates someone they usually block them out altogether. But this man has not done that. In these situations, you’re allowed to be disappointed, and even sad. What’s inappropriate is hounding the other person, and dominating her personal space (virtual or IRL) to the point where she is forced to acknowledge you.

New data about relationships and privacy from McAfee revealed some pretty interesting stats about social media stalking that actually really, really surprised me: apparently, men stalk online more than women do. IN YOUR FACE, BOYFRIEND!

This data says that 46 percent of men stalk their partner, their ex or their partner’s ex on Facebook or Twitter, while the percentage of women was only 37. Similarly, 57 percent of men admitted to logging into their partner’s social media or email account, while only 52 percent of women admitted to doing it also. Okay, so the percentages aren’t super different, but still – I honestly would have never thought that more men would admit to doing that stuff more than women. Read more:



The small problem that the two of us had has grown into some huge issue for him causing him to make videos, posts and blogs about me. He even held a funeral service for me. I’m surprised that more people didn’t think that was demented. People fed right into it and watched. Completely entertained joining in on him and his bias misleading information. Cheering him on has he spoke about my death. This Jap person has the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others. The people who gained strength from watching this merrily joined the bandwagon. I bunch of strangers I don’t even know. But what some people don’t understand that for every 1 person that doesn’t like me there are several hundred that do and they have emailed me information that would expose Minister Jap. However if I revealed what I know I’d be no better than him. Several other women he has dated exclusively have contacted me saying he has done the same thing to them. 


Although there are no single behavior that can be considered to be ‘stalking’, the three most common behaviors are 1) Phone calls, 2) Surveillance, 3) Unwanted contact. The possibilities for a partner or ex-partner to harass you are endless. The good news is that from a legal point of view, if the behavior seen in context would make a reasonable person feel fearful, it is good enough for the judge. Repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other behavior directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear is enough for a person to be imprisoned.


To me all of this is sad it broke my heart that we even had to go through this. It’s gotten so bad that he has photoshopped pictures of my siblings saying that they sent him friend’s requests on FB. When it’s really him who sent a friend’s request to my sister Alana. In his mind he creates storylines to try to convince people that I am the one after him when in reality I have not contacted him and none of my family has either. He has contacted my family, friends and ex partners trying to pry them for information. He hopes that these people have had bad experiences with me so he can add validity to the lies he has created to imply that he and I have had some type of huge conflict. Then he’ll invite them to come on to his radio show or YouTube channel. He has asked me on several occasions to come on to his show and discuss my issues with other people who weren’t smart enough to pick up on him using them as a puppet in his fictional hateful”Soncerae” play. That type of manipulation takes too much energy unnamed2to me. I just don’t think that hard about other people and how to make myself look better in the expense of those innocent people. This has been a draining process all year it’s been this back and forth battle between he and I and the innocent people he has pulled in our issues to make it seem like I’m a bad person. People I don’t even know nor have I ever had a problem with burst out of nowhere with this hatred towards me that he created maliciously.  I spoke about it in this blog called BITCH NIGGAS UNITED:


In their relentless, thoughtless, and undisciplined pursuit of their self-serving agendas, they’re quite willing to run over those whom they perceive as standing in their way.  They’ll do whatever it takes to “win,” secure the dominant position, or get something they want.  Still, for most of the aggressive personalities, causing pain and injury to others is not their primary objective.  Triumph is their ultimate aim, even if someone has to get hurt in the process.   Sadistic-aggressive personalities, however, are primarily interested in hurting, degrading, demeaning, and inflicting agony upon others.  And making someone else grovel is not only the major way sadists secure the dominant position their relationships but also an activity they truly enjoy.  See more:


In this case, he believes I’m also some kind of YouTube Competition. Black Men become extremely popular on YouTube for Bashing Black Women. So it definitely helps him that I’m black and female. It’s just a huge mess that I want to be officially over. Now it’s time to contact the authorities. Which is really not something I want to do but this has gone too far that he has left me no choice. Stalking does not always mean someone following you stealthily on the road.

Stalking tendencies include a multitude of options such as stalking your cyber presence through various social media websites or sending you spam emails or sending lewd messages. The moment you find out that you have a stalker, the first thing you need to do is find out how to get rid of a stalker, for the peace of your mind and the safety of your life.

  1. Have NO contact with the stalker. Try your best to maintain a safe distance
  2. Tell others
  3. Increase personal protection. Make all your pictures and information private on social media sites
  4. Collect evidence. Keep records of their activities, pictures, texts, and anything else they send you.
  5. Considering filing for a restraining order.

After trying to convince me that I  should have sex with him on the first night this man has now called me a very thing that he said he’d never call a woman who had sex with him on the first night. He and I never had sex, never even officially met yet he has let my rejection compel him to call me a Hoe. He is clearly mentally unstable.

Do Men Even ‘LIKE’ Women?

The concept of ‘Hit It & Quit It’ leads me to think that most men don’t really enjoy the company of women. Inside of this video I speak about the difference between men who actually like women versus men who just want to use women for sex.

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Black Secret Societies: Sex Rituals

Prince Hall Freemasonry is a branch of North American Freemasonry founded by Prince Hall in the 18th century and composed predominantly of African-Americans. There are two main branches of Prince Hall Freemasonry: the independent State Prince Hall Grand Lodges, most of which are recognized by Regular Masonic jurisdictions and those under the jurisdiction of the National Grand Lodge.Inside of this video I speak specifically about the conventional door of sexual favors that I needed to enter in order to gain the trust of the Masons related to the Eastern Star Chapter I wanted to join.

When we mention Masons, Elks and Eastern Stars we might as well mention Greek fraternities and sororities. This secret knowledge that they possess is really no secret at all. As our brothers and sisters here who practice the traditions of our ancestors can tell you this “secret knowledge” was stolen and used outright by the Greeks and Romans and in secrecy by Europeans for fear of excommunication and heresy from the Roman Catholic Church at that time. A good portion of today’s Masonic knowledge was established during and after The Holy Crusades. Prince Hall’s reasoning for establishing the First African Masonic Lodge was two-fold. First wanted to teach the slaves and former slaves who they were, where they came from and their greatness. Second he wanted to give the slave and former slave something that would elevate the slave to the status of the elite white man. That was Free Masonry. He knew that the knowledge of Free Masonry was something the white man could never take away and by Masonic creed make them brothers bound by knowledge. Of course this was unacceptable to the white man even to this day. In the movie and true story “Rosewood” the massacre was behind a white woman Fannie Taylor accusation of being raped by a black man one morning. The truth was she was having affair with a white man and that morning he and her argued and he beat her. She lied to hide the shame. The white man was a Mason and used his Masonic connection to escape prosecution demanding the help from local black Masons. The black Masons aided his escape and died harboring the secret of what really happened. Here we see black men dying for the Masonic Order. It was once said by a famous author, historian and Egyptologist that black Masons are Africans imitating Europeans imitating Africans.” – Former Prince Hall Mason


Research has shown that fraternity men are at greater risk for committing sexual assault due to their alcohol consumption, sexual outlook and group attitudes toward women. Although fraternity members also have a higher risk for committing rape than other college men, most of them don’t rape. Sorority members have a greater risk of being sexually assaulted. According to the National Institute of Justice, nearly a quarter of sexual assault victims are sorority members. These women also face a higher risk for violence in dating relationships than other female students.

Fraternities’ group norms and attitudes toward women and sex have led to a rape culture environment. According to research from the journal Sex Roles, individual fraternity men are more likely to display objectified images of women, have supportive attitudes about rape and believe women want to engage in rough sexual acts even if they act disinterested.

Being a part of a fraternity or sorority in college gives you more insight about the Masonic Order. Most are introduced to it during college.


Most people are unaware that Masonry and The Swinger’s Lifestyle are connected. In 2008, a member of the order exposed the Grand Lodge of Masons in Massachusetts. Admitting that they control the swinging activities in the state. MASONIC BLUE LODGE, EASTERN STAR, RAINBOW GIRLS, & DEMOLAY BOYS are all named as societies that participate in these kinds of activities. They take pictures and videos of their orgies and sexual interaction.

“Few men understand what they are getting into when they become Masons. Most Masons join because they trust friends, family members, or church members who invite them. Others join for business connections or political votes. Some men join because of masonic charities. Most men who join have no idea that, during their initiation, they will be required to make solemn blood oaths.” – Masonry Website


“If you want to be an Eastern Star, as a women you will always take a back-seat and tolerate sexist rules in their masonic practice. When women join Eastern Star, they support sexism because they need to verify that they have a male masonic relative to join and cannot hold meetings without men present.” – Former Eastern Star

In the video I posted above, I spoke about a Mason I met while researching a lodge, here in Atlanta, who was comfortable with the swinger’s lifestyle and with adultery.

For 18 years my husband and I were partners in life . I loved him , was always there for him . I could count on him , he was there for me . Everything changed when he joined the Masons. He became a master mason…. At first I went with him to functions that wife’s were allowed to attend. I was greeted with a cold reception from the other wives . My husband assured me that would change if I would join the Order of The Eastern Star . I wanted nothing to do with this super secret organization . Being a Mason takes precedence over all other ,even wife and family . My husband was never home . He attended many important meetings and conventions where wives are not allowed . I learned that prostitutes are an important part of these conventions and meetings . Wives are only important as props . Attachments to the members arm as he is honored moving up in chairs . A wife completes the uniform and gives the appearance of being good and honorable men . Some of these honored ladies have been with these men for more than twenty years as Masons . They have to know , but their friends and social lives are centered in the Freemasons , the men they love . After many years of sharing our computer , my husband locked me out . After twenty-six years our marriage is ending with divorce. I had his pass word removed from our computer . In it I found a prostitute service Shriners use when away from wives . I found the name of one of the wives that he shares a porn site with . He has been in a relationship with the widow of a Mason and with other women for a long time . Cheating and messing around on their wives is one of the secrets . My husband has found a prop . If I could have played along my husband wouldn’t be trying to put me out with only my personal belongings . Please don’t tell me that Mason do good and kind acts with their secrets . Yes my husband has changed for the worst with involvement in the Masons . I am almost afraid because some judges and lawyers in Las Vegas are Masons. – Former Mason’s Wife

Master Masons promise not to cheat, defraud, or do violence to a Master Mason. They promise not to commit adultery with the wife of a Master Mason or seduce his sister, daughter, or other female relative. These promises only apply to fellow Master Masons. Masons are required to tell lies and even perjure themselves to protect other Masons. They are also required to obey even orders which they know to be immoral.

American Freemasonry includes local Lodges, Scottish Rite Temples, York Rite, and the Shriners. Prince Hall is a masonic order for black men.

The Eastern Star is an auxiliary organization for wives and adult daughters of Masons. There are also masonic organizations for children — DeMolay (for boys), Job’s Daughters, and Rainbow Girls. These are known as “adoptive” masonry, which means that wives, sisters, daughters and sons of Masons are spiritually adopted into the masonic order.

Female member of the O.E.S. are not full-fledged members/sisters until participating in Sexual Swinging/Mutual Adultery, Sexual Orgies. -Marion Jackson Jr.


“In the original degree work of the O.E.S., the RUTH degree is narrated by Philomath, and the Roman goddess, Flora, who take on the Biblical personas of Boaz and Ruth. A fair amount of research on the Roman goddess Flora reveals that as the person symbolizing the re-birth that takes place in Spring, she is honored/identified with Sexual Orgies. Little is known of her counterpart, Philomath; however, the breakdown of his name tells quite a lot about who/what he is.

*PHILO is a Greek word that basically means ‘academic love of’ [Eros is the Greek word for ‘Sexual love of’]

*MATH basically means ‘how things add up together’.

In other words, PHILOMATH literally means ‘lover of the way that things add up/work together. Philomath and Flora are together because Sexual Orgies are part of how things work together in order to achieve Spirituality. Of course, because Philomath and Flora are connected to Boaz and Ruth, this provides value to The Bible as THE WAY to utilize Group Sex activities as the way to achieve Spiritual Maturity (Jesus Christ is THE WAY, who is the One who instructs the requirement of Group Sex to WORSHIP The Father in Spirit).

Again, in the O.E.S. degree work, Flora is narrating the story as Ruth, a woman whose husband has ‘died’ and has chose to follow a new/foreign understanding (her ‘dead’ husband’s mother) rather than return to her family’s ways and understanding.

***Note: her ‘dead’ husband is ACTUALLY a newly transformed BOAZ…who prior to his transformation, followed Ruth by listening to her guidance, but who began following a more Spiritually accurate guidance unknown to Ruth or her family. Therefore, the part of her husband Ruth used to provide guidance to no longer remained, so he is referred to as ‘dead’. The unknown, new aspect of her husband — which requires Ruth to trust in and follow, the way her husband trusted in and followed her before that part of him ‘died’ — is then identified as Boaz…a strong, successful leader who Ruth chooses to follow.

Boaz, narrated in the O.E.S. degree work by Philomath, sees Ruth working on his behalf, and given her efforts at aligning with doing what she can to assist what Boaz is doing, he marries her. Basically, this points to the fact that while Philomath has learned the proper way for things to be done in order to become successful (righteous) — even more so than what occured when Ruth was the one leading the relationship –, via the persona of Boaz, the proper utilization of Sexual Orgies [Flora] is understood and Ruth begins to participate in them, despite previous thought-processes of her family member

Females who are sisters of the Order of the Eastern Stars (a Freemasonry-based organization) satisfy their purpose by fulfilling their RUTH degree. Sexual Orgies are part of how things work together in order to achieve Spirituality. Because of the connection between Freemasonry — and it’s requirement to practice Sexual Swinging/Mutual Adultery, and Sexual ORGIES to reach the Master Mason level — and the Order of the Eastern Star — and the FLORA/RUTH degree aligning with the Master Mason requirement, this speaks very loudly and clearly what is required for a World-based member of the O.E.S. to reach ITS highest level…The RUTH degree.” -Marion Jackson Jr. 

Who’s Fault Is It That HE CHEATED?

Who’s fault is it anyway? Besides, people control themselves. People do what they want to do whether it’s right or wrong. Inside of this video I speak about how women shouldn’t OWN a man’s cheating.

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I Have Sex With Who I Want

If you haven’t watched enough of my YouTube videos yet you have no idea that I am open with my sexuality. I’m a single woman and have always been very candid about my experiences. I spoke of my experiences and went under heavy scrutiny inside of this video I speak about my sexual insecurities.

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The Consequences of Not Trusting Women’s Intuition

One of my viewers asked me why women question their own intuition in relation to men. In this video I speak about my own personal experiences with intuition and the best part about it being a gift to women.

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Black Women Destroyed The Black Community

How can Black Men respect Black Women if the first Black Woman they came in contact with didn’t respect herself nor was respected by her own father or male relatives. She was never taught respect. Then she turns around and raises the Black Men who Bash Black Women. Black Men need to assume their positions and stand strong as Fathers and Husband and teach their children & wives the benefit of respecting the opposite sex so that way respect for the Black Community is created. Stop relinquishing your own responsibility by believing that Black Women just woke up one morning lost and unprotected, deprived and uneducated, cruel and selfish…..that is learned behavior that was created by the absence or mistreatment of a Father Figure.